The truth is, we have more power than we give ourselves credit for, more say over our lives than we believe.
We are not destined to sit idly by and accept what happens to us, or the type of person we become. We can choose.
Sure, we can’t control everything and we suck at predicting the future, but that doesn’t mean we are powerless.
Many things are within our control, many things can be made more likely, though never certain.
The truth is, we are flawed sacks of flesh crowned by an overactive imagination, but whilst we ARE flawed, we are NOT our flaws.
We can work on ourselves, we can strive to grow and become better, we can forge a path of our choosing, not to any particular destination, but one where the journey is graced with great views and even better company.
And yet, for the most part, we forget this power of ours and we fall into a pattern of habitual existence where days and months and years go by without much change in our lives.
We relinquish our grasp on the steering wheel of life and let ourselves drift aimlessly down whatever road is in front of us.
The truth is, there is no shame in that. None of us should ever feel the pressure to live a particular kind of life, doing specific types of things, growing in very precise ways.
But neither should we feel ashamed of wanting to grow and develop and evolve into something, someone different to what we are now.
We all have it within ourselves to change in objectively positive ways, to cast off unhealthy habits, to rid ourselves of toxic mindsets, and to put an end to damaging relationships.
The choice is ours to make and each one of us should weigh up the pros and cons before deciding which course of action is right.
The truth is, we have all grown up in unique circumstances with unique genetics and an upbringing that only we have experienced.
We all have scars from our past, but some run deeper than others. We all have wonderful memories, but some have fewer than others.
We may not feel ready to embark on a journey that will take much of our strength and courage, and that’s okay.
But if we do feel ready, there is no better time to launch ourselves from the dock of today and sail toward the future of tomorrow.
We can decide what kind of tomorrow we’d like to see, what changes we’d like to make to our lives. Whether that’s greater time freedom, more financial security, better relationships, we can aim for it and try to make it happen.
The truth is, we will fail from time to time. No plan goes smoothly. We will face struggles and we will have to overcome obstacles if we are to edge, bit by bit toward our goal.
And when we do fail, it will take every ounce of our resilience and determination to get up, dust ourselves off, and try again.
But no change comes easily. When the caterpillar becomes the butterfly, the metamorphosis takes almost every ounce of energy the caterpillar has, not to mention a lot of time.
So when we seek to transform ourselves into a veritable butterfly of our own making, we must be prepared to push through the hard times in order to spread our wings in our new lives.
The truth is, many of us are afraid of what might happen if we try to change our lives for the better.
Whatever circumstances we currently find ourselves in, there is some comfort in knowing what we know. It may not always be enjoyable, but we are familiar with it.
And to break away from what we know is to confront what we don’t. It is to walk through a door not knowing what it on the other side. Sure, we may have some idea because we are forging a life of our own choosing, but we never know exactly what it will be like or what to expect.
And, yes, that is scary. And in order to push through that fear, we must ask ourselves what is more daunting: to grow and change for the better in a world that is new to us, or to remain firmly where we are in the comfort of our discomfort.
The truth is, we know when we are ready. We hear the nagging voice from deep within telling us that something needs to change.
At first we may think we’re crazy, that things are just fine the way they are. But the message is relentless and we begin to realize that far from being crazy, it is perhaps the most rational and lucid thought we have ever had.
And so we strike out on our journey, we take that first step, we cast our eyes forward to some place far off in the distance, some waypoint that we seek to reach.
With each step we take, our belief in ourselves grows and our desire to keep moving becomes an unstoppable momentum.
The truth is, the journey never ends. There is not some kind of nirvana where we can rest and say “we have arrived!”
There is only the next step on a journey that will take the rest of our lives. But that excites us because once we’ve seen the power we have over our own destiny, we enjoy the challenges we face with ever more enthusiasm.
That’s not to say that we don’t stop to enjoy ourselves as we travel. In fact, it’s quite the opposite. Between steps, we experience contentment in the present moment like never before. We see the progress we have made, we see what still lies ahead, but we are at peace with the place we call home right here, right now.
As paradoxical as it sounds, we find happiness in today knowing that tomorrow we will take another step and then another. Our journey, wherever it may lead, is just a series of todays, each one more satisfying than the last.
The truth is, we are the architects of our own destiny. We work on an ever-changing and expanding blueprint into which we can, when we’re ready, design ourselves a joyous and fulfilling life.
The truth is… life is ours for the making. So go out and make it.