We love and cherish those people in our lives who respect our feelings, know our moods, and whose intuition seems to lead them straight to our needs. Sensitive people. They try to fill the world with compassion for their own good and for others’, which is a huge benefit, especially in a world that pretends dominance is somehow preferable to sensitivity.
But they’re often unsung. They don’t tend to seek the limelight, so in their honor, here are some of the benefits of not only being a highly sensitive person, but being around such people as well.
Benefit One: Soul Collectors
Good people gravitate toward them. Not-so-good people gravitate toward them too, and, believe it or not, sometimes become better people just from being around the HSP. One of the greatest benefits of being highly sensitive is you can become the hub for amazing things.
People may feel more creative under your influence, more comfortable and free in expressing their true selves. Few things are more wonderful than that, and opening yourself to experiencing this wash of potentiality has the effect of dazzling the entire soul.
Benefit Two: The Sensual World
Sex is a wonderful thing… yet not always the actual act itself. We’ve all had our Biff or Helga who treated sex like Olympic training, but the days of selfish, greedy, competitive intimacy are dying out. Sensitivity is the new sexy and highly sensitive people make great lovers.
HSPs tend to be sensualists, attentive to the full range of sexual expression our wonderful bodies offer, and their natural inclination is to allow themselves to flow outward. The highly sensitive person merges with the mind in order to seep into the body. They listen, they respond, they adapt and, to our sexual expression’s benefit, they innovate.
Benefit Three: Kitchen Renaissance
Furthering the sensualist line of thinking, highly sensitive people make great cooks. Why? Because they want things to taste great for you. Cooking often becomes a ritual of love, an art that they will take the time to get right.
Each meal might not be a mind-blowing experience, but it’s nearly guaranteed you won’t live your life off Ramen noodles and chicken McNuggets. An HSP savors scent, taste, and texture in the kitchen just as much as in the bedroom. And as in the bedroom, there’s a willingness to learn: expect a broad range of cookbooks to be close at hand.
Time spent in the kitchen with this person will rarely be boring, will likely be healthier than what you’re used to, and will certainly open you to a variety of experiences.
Benefit Four: Financial Reality
By the time we reach our front door to leave for work we’ve likely been: (a) exposed to a news item implying that buying this might protect us from that; (b) barraged by advertisements that say we are one step away from being utterly pathetic seeing as we stink, we don’t have bits of plastic bleach stuck to our teeth, our homes look like crap, our car is an exercise in forced celibacy, and our children will hate us if they’re not armored in things that are trending.
The commercial culture preys on those who are not in touch with themselves, whereas a highly sensitive person is more interested in: giving their children love before the latest iPhone, ensuring their car works properly so that it isn’t a safety hazard to others, making their house comfortable and welcoming to all who enter, knowing that smiling is beauty, and offering hugs because nothing beats a good hug between friends.
Since the highly sensitive person doesn’t spend as much of their money on hyper-commercialized garbage as most folks, they have money. Not necessarily riches. Actually, sometimes barely bus fare, because money isn’t a strong motivator for them, but generally one won’t find them panicking over finances.
A sensitive person is intuitive to the hidden costs and pains behind the latest fads: the sweatshops, the health risks, the diverting of resources from those in need to those who don’t; they do not wish to be a happy or willing part of that heinous problem.
HSPs are often quite stressed people because of the overwhelm they experience. Stress weakens the immune system which suggests that HSPs are probably more prone to bouts of illness, not less. And yet… have you noticed that certain sensitive friends of yours require a crone coughing Black Death into their faces in order to even begin to get them sick? Or that when they smile, they immediately look like a decades younger version of themselves?
It’s about self-management and self-care: the HSP, alone, can find themselves swamped by inputs from a thousand sources, and this can be highly detrimental if trying to handle it alone. Many HSPs, however, create networks of similarly sensitive people and use these networks as safety valves or regeneration chambers, allowing their bodies to sidestep the harmful effects of physical and emotional bombardment.
These networks become immune boosters, not only to the sensitive person, but to those around them. Think about the vitality felt when around a friend whose touch heals, whose eyes see, and whose ears hear quite clearly even when we’re not sure ourselves what we’re saying. Our systems hum in their presence.
Benefit Six: Keepers of the Message Bottle
An odd thing about the internet is that even though communication across it is still largely text-based, concision and shortcuts rule the day. Where one would think people might spend time crafting weighty messages, they’ve opted instead for truncated bursts. Of course, the immediacy of internet communication contributes to this; I mean, the other person is right there. We’re not going to have them sitting a half hour waiting for us to type our response to this-or-that query.
Yet this is where the highly sensitive person stands tall: they have not allowed letter-writing to die. A letter, be it hand-written or typed out, presents a fuller view of the world. It says there is time to speak your mind (which makes it polite and thoughtful); it says it will wait upon your response (which makes it considerate of everything going on in your life and respectful of your friendship); most of all, a genuine letter says the writer tried to touch you across an entire ocean of existence. That’s a message in a bottle worthy of the inherent poetry of life.
At their best, highly sensitive people serve to remind us that it’s OK to slow down and BE. We can appreciate small moments equally as much as large, such as a child engaging logic to learn something new about their world; the crunch preceding the soft perfection of a doughnut fresh from the fryer; a kiss on the neck when you weren’t expecting a kiss on the neck; jogging in the morning with someone whom you know would absolutely carry you should the need arise. These kinds of things orbit a highly sensitive person’s life. This might make for the most untold benefit accorded the sensitive in our lives: they, quite literally, make the world go ’round.