The beauty of this practice is in its simplicity: basically, it is a conscious ritual of reconciliation and forgiveness.
Ho’oponopono’s literal translation is: “to put in order or shape, to put right, to correct, revise, adjust, amend, regulate, arrange, rectify, tidy up, make orderly or neat.”
When taking part in this practice, you are helping to put in order what has been misaligned and hurt in some fashion.
In Hawaiian culture, it’s believed that illness and stress are the result of misconduct that hasn’t been reconciled.
For example, if you initiated a fight with someone and you both left on poor terms, and there was never proper closure, the negativity of that action may manifest in you physically, emotionally, or spiritually.
Ho’oponopono is a practice that allows you to release the negativity being held within you, sending the sincere desire for reconciliation out into the universe, to the spirit of the one you have wronged, in order to correct the situation.
In its modern form, Ho’oponopono consists of repeating four phrases:
I love you,
Please forgive me,
Why is this is an effective means of healing yourself? Well, by owning and taking responsibility for our thoughts and emotions, we recognize their impact on everything else around us.
Think about how often people blame others for what they think or feel… or conversely, how often we abdicate responsibility for our behavior toward others, and their resulting emotional upheaval.
“He made me angry!” instead of “I feel angry because of his actions.”
“She’s crying because she’s weak,” instead of “I was inconsiderate and said something to make her cry.”
Acknowledging our responsibility in both our own reactions, and in causing those in others, is a huge step toward reconciliation.
The most important aspect of Ho’oponopono is the idea that there is no “us” as individuals, isolated from the rest of the universe.
Everything we think or feel is manifested in everything we encounter around us.
It’s a concept that many who don’t have an animistic lean may have difficulty relating to, but it centers around the idea that we are co-creators of the universe in which we live.
As such, our negative actions, emotions, and thoughts affect everything from other people to storms.
Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len, a Hawaiian therapist who has helped to heal countless people, explains as follows:
Total responsibility for your life means that everything in your life – simply because it is in your life – is your responsibility. In a literal sense the entire world is your creation.
There is no “us” and “them.”
When another person hurts you, they are hurting themselves. When we upset another, we are upset ourselves.
Every single thing in creation is a mirror of our own souls, and so by healing and loving ourselves, we heal and love everything else.
This may be a difficult concept for the average person to wrap their heads around, but that says a lot about how disconnected we all are from the rest of the world.
We isolate ourselves in our self-absorbed little bubbles, taking great offense when we are wronged in some way, and holding on to emotional pain.
Even more so, very few of us know what it means to love and accept ourselves unconditionally, especially if it means taking full responsibility for that love and acceptance.
Most of us have been programmed with the idea that only by being accepted and adored by others are we worthy human beings, and that we can only gain that acceptance and adoration by looking a certain way, wearing specific clothes, behaving in a particular manner, etc.
This idea is poison.
If you want to see a dramatic positive change in your life, the first step – the absolute first step – is to love, accept, and forgive yourself. To heal the wounds in the world, the first step is to embrace, love, and heal the wounded parts deep within ourselves.
Love is the most powerful force in the universe, and by directing it toward yourself, along with sincere forgiveness, extraordinary change can take place. First of all within you, and next, in everyone else.
Try it. See what happens.
The next time someone trolls you on social media, or one of your family members tries to push your buttons, take some time to yourself and repeat those four simple phrases.
I love you,
Please forgive me,
Wait, and watch what happens.
Love and light to you.
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