Loneliness is something that we all experience in our lives; some more than others.
For the most part, feeling lonely is seen as a negative experience. There is much pain in feeling disconnected from the world around you.
Whilst not wishing to downplay this pain, this article will seek to extol some of the virtues of loneliness.
Many wise minds have understood the power and beauty to be discovered in being utterly alone with oneself.
Here are 20 quotes about loneliness that might just bring you closer to making peace with yours.
We must become so alone, so utterly alone, that we withdraw into our innermost self. It is a way of bitter suffering. But then our solitude is overcome, we are no longer alone, for we find that our innermost self is the spirit, that it is God, the indivisible. And suddenly we find ourselves in the midst of the world, yet undisturbed by its multiplicity, for our innermost soul we know ourselves to be one with all being. – Hermann Hesse
This profound quote tells us that our loneliness, and the suffering it brings, can be a portal through which we will come to understand the deepest of all truths: that we are connected to everyone and everything else. That we are all one.
Loneliness is and always has been the central and inevitable experience of every man. – Thomas Wolfe
As stated in our introduction, loneliness touches everybody at some point in their lives. It is a universal experience. Knowing that you share your suffering with every other person can bring comfort and help ease that very suffering.
Because, once alone, it is impossible to believe that one could ever have been otherwise. Loneliness is an absolute discovery. – Marilynne Robinson
To know yourself, truly and deeply, you must experience loneliness. Only then, when you are free of others’ thoughts, expectations, and beliefs, can you allow yourself to be wholly and utterly YOU.
I will fill myself with the desert and the sky. I will be stone and stars, unchanging and strong and safe. The desert is complete; it is spare and alone, but perfect in its solitude. I will be the desert. – Kiersten White
Once you have discovered who you are, you will understand that you, alone, are complete. You do not need some external being to fill in a missing piece, for you have no piece missing.
A man can be himself only so long as he is alone; and if he does not love solitude, he will not love freedom; for it is only when he is alone that he is really free. – Arthur Schopenhauer
You may feel trapped by loneliness, but if you can find comfort in your solitude, you will feel liberated. Being by yourself, you are not confined by those around you. You can do and be whatever you like. Rejoice in this freedom.
Be a loner. That gives you time to wonder, to search for the truth. Have holy curiosity. Make your life worth living. – Albert Einstein
Don’t underestimate the benefits of being a loner. You have more freedom to sit and think and marvel at the world around you. You can contemplate life, meditate on meaning, and discover truths that might otherwise have remained hidden.
Loneliness is not lack of company, loneliness is lack of purpose. – Guillermo Maldonado
People are not the solution to loneliness. You can feel just as lonely in a crowd or in a marriage as you do in isolation. To truly overcome the pain of being alone, you must identify what you want to do with your life; your purpose, your ambition, your goal.
It is better to be lonely than allow people who are not going anywhere keep you from your destiny. – Joel Osteen
Continuing on the theme of purpose, you must realize that being alone and feeling lonely is preferable to surrounding yourself with people who stifle your growth.
That’s not to say that all people will hold you back, but don’t allow your journey to be curtailed by the limited vision of your travelling companions.
Pray that your loneliness may spur you into finding something to live for, great enough to die for. – Dag Hammarskjold
A third quote on finding purpose through loneliness just to drive home the message that there is something to be gained from your isolation.
I am lonely, yet not everybody will do. I don’t know why, some people fill the gaps and others emphasize my loneliness. – Anaïs Nin
This quote highlights the importance of choosing who you allow into your life. Some people will ease your feelings of loneliness, while others will make them worse. It’s about what a person brings with them into your life.
If you learn to really sit with loneliness and embrace it for the gift that it is…an opportunity to get to know YOU, to learn how strong you really are, to depend on no one but YOU for your happiness…you will realize that a little loneliness goes a LONG way in creating a richer, deeper, more vibrant and colorful YOU. – Mandy Hale
This is the first of four quotes that will explore the importance of knowing yourself and liking who that person is. Loneliness is a mirror in which we see ourselves more clearly than we ever can in the company of others.
At the innermost core of all loneliness is a deep and powerful yearning for union with one’s lost self. – Brendan Behan
We feel most lonely when we do not know ourselves because, at our innermost core, we are the person we want to feel most connected to. If we cannot connect with ourselves, we will find it difficult to connect with others.
When we cannot bear to be alone, it means we do not properly value the only companion we will have from birth to death – ourselves. – Eda J. LeShan
Loneliness comes from not knowing your self-worth and accepting that you are enough. We are the person with whom we will spend our entire lives; love yourself and the love of others will merely be the icing on the cake.
You cannot be lonely if you like the person you’re alone with. – Wayne Dyer
When you enjoy your own company, loneliness cannot permeate your life. You can be happy and content without the need for external companionship.
Loneliness adds beauty to life. It puts a special burn on sunsets and makes night air smell better. – Henry Rollins
There’s something about being alone during certain moments that make them all the more special. Solitude at the top of a hill, looking down over the land below cannot be made any more special with company.
If you are alone, you belong entirely to yourself. If you are accompanied by even one companion, you belong only half to yourself or even less in proportion to the thoughtlessness of his conduct, and if you have more than one companion, you will fall more deeply into the same plight. – Leonardo da Vinci
When you are alone, you do not have to give any part of you over to another. In good company, you receive an equal part back, but when the company is not good, you are left poorer. In this respect, being alone has tangible benefits.
There is pleasure in the pathless woods, there is rapture in the lonely shore, there is society where none intrudes, by the deep sea, and music in its roar; I love not Man the less, but Nature more. – Lord Byron
Loneliness gives you more opportunity to connect with nature. You are not distracted by those you are with and can soak up the wealth of beauty and wonder that surrounds you. Solitude brings with it the chance to dwell solely in the moment provided by the natural world.
If one’s different, one’s bound to be lonely. – Aldous Huxley
Depending on the circumstances that have led to your loneliness, it might be you are lonely because you have a unique personality that other people simply don’t understand. Don’t despair in this, see it as a positive. You are most certainly not a clone or a sheep; you are distinctly wonderful.
The more powerful and original a mind, the more it will incline towards the religion of solitude. – Aldous Huxley
Further confirmation that those who are blessed with an original take on being human or those who think differently to others are more prone to loneliness. Once you accept this, you may find that you feel less lonely.
Only in solitude do we find ourselves; and in finding ourselves, we find in ourselves all our brothers in solitude. – Miguel de Unamuno
Finally, we return to the idea that loneliness is an inevitable consequence of being human. We all feel lonely from time to time and it is through finding ourselves that we come to realize this deep connection that exists between all people.
Hopefully these loneliness quotes will have made you think differently about your plight. Being lonely is not devoid of benefits and meaning. In fact, it can teach us much about ourselves and about life.
Which of these quotes has touched you the deepest? Leave a comment below to let us know.