We all ask the universe for things; it’s not always a conscious process, but through our hopes and dreams, every one of us puts in requests in one form or another.
What that power is and how it works is a matter for debate – God, the universe, the source, cosmic energy – it doesn’t really matter. Asking for something can work.
Honestly, I’m not even sure what I believe just yet. A part of me thinks that when we ask for things, it is our unconscious that provides the answers, but I also feel that our unconscious minds could well be linked to something greater.
Throughout this article, I will be referring to ‘the universe’ as this greater power – you can substitute whichever word you like in its place.
Whatever you believe in, the process of asking and receiving is the same. It’s not enough to just ask, you have to keep the following steps in mind to reap the full benefits.
Step 1 – Be Sure, Be Precise
One of the main traps that people fall into when they ask the universe for something is that they are not 100% sure what they want and why.
They say things like ‘I want to be rich’ or ‘I want to find love’, but until you flesh out those ideas, they are not going to work as effective requests.
What does rich mean to you? Is it an amount of money in your bank account, a particular salary, the ability to go on X holidays per year, enough to comfortably raise 2 children without having to worry?
What does love mean to you? Is it romantic love you want, another type of soulmate, love between you and your family, someone you can settle down with, someone you trust, someone you find attractive, or something else?
The problem with asking generic questions of the universe is that you won’t know what the answer looks like. Until you can say, with some degree of certainty, what you actually want, how can you possibly know whether or not you receive it?
Let your feelings guide you in deciding what exactly it is you want. If you don’t get a powerful desire erupting within you when you visualize your request, then it’s not the right request to make. I can ask to win the lottery, but I don’t really understand for sure how that would make my life better – or I can ask to be free from the stress of money (however that manifests) because I know that that’s all I really desire.
Step 2 – Ask And Let It Go
Once you have asked for something, you need to relax and put that thing out of your mind. Remember, you are seeking a response from something other than your thinking mind – so there is zero point in dwelling on it.
Simply put in your request to the universe and then get on with your day. Think of it like writing a letter – until you finish writing it, you can’t put it in an envelope, stick a stamp on it, and put it in the mail box. And until you put it in the mail, it can’t reach its intended recipient. And until it reaches the recipient, they cannot send a reply.
Being impatient with the universe – perhaps even getting angry – serves no purpose other than to make you miserable.
Depending on what request you have made, the end goal you have in mind might take days or it might take years to reach.
Step 4 – Watch For Signs
When the universe responds, it will not always be obvious. You have to keep your eyes peeled for little signs here and there that guide you to where you want to be.
Think of a maze with your hopes and dreams in the middle – the universe can help you reach them by telling you when you need to turn left and when you need to turn right. If you fail to see the signs, you may reach a dead end and have to turn back on yourself.
These signs can come in many different forms, but they will be ones that you are able to spot if you look hard enough.
So, if you wish for a new job and have asked the universe to help you find one, be acutely aware of any potential opportunities that arise. Maybe you get speaking to someone at a party who works for a company you’d love to work at – ask them if there are any jobs available or whether they could introduce you to their manager.
You should also be mindful of any thoughts or memories that appear randomly when you least expect them – these are can often be important signs that you need to look more closely at.
When you are watching for signs, you need to release any thoughts that might hold you back from taking action. After all, even with a map in hand, until you are willing to take the first step, you won’t go anywhere.
A crucial step that is often overlooked by people is trusting the universe to do right by you, even if it doesn’t seem that way on the surface.
The biggest problem with asking the universe for things is that you can’t know for sure exactly what is best for you.
Even something as simple as wanting to be free from money worries is not necessarily what will bring you the most joy, satisfaction and contentment. If you have to struggle to make ends meet throughout your entire life, it may be the universe’s way of giving you a deep and fulfilling appreciation of all the little things in life.
If you were suddenly able to buy everything you need comfortably, you may find that you are no longer as grateful for things such as ice creams by the beach or the days out that you treat yourself to once or twice a year.
So, while you can and should ask the universe for things, you should know that the signs you follow may, in fact, lead you somewhere else entirely, but that this could be where you wanted to end up in the first place (you just didn’t know it).
Step 6 – Send Reminders Now And Again
I put this step in primarily for requests to the universe that ask for help in solving problems, but I guess it has its place in any circumstance.
I do so because of my personal leaning towards a belief that the universe is partly within our unconscious minds.
You can ask for help and your unconscious will attempt to provide the answers, but it might not have them straight away. Being patient is important, as I spoke about earlier, but I believe that reaffirming the request every so often can help too.
This is especially true if, like me, you believe that the unconscious mind plays a role in bringing you the answers. By reminding yourself of your request, you send a signal to your unconscious to keep searching.
Repeating your request can also have the side effect of reminding you to be vigilant when looking for the signs and signals that will lead you to that which you seek.
Step 7 – Be Thankful
When you are given the things you asked for, be thankful for them and show your gratitude in your actions.
And don’t forget to give thanks for everything else you have, whether you asked for it or not.
So, here are the steps once again in one, easy-to-follow list: