Dear future husband,
Thank you for accepting me as I am and loving me unconditionally.
Thank you for letting go of my past and looking to our future.
Thank you for making me feel good and for calling me out when I’m bad.
Thank you for understanding that, while I will do my utmost to be the best version of myself around you, there are things that have happened to make me the way I am. It’s really special to me that you can accept me and that you are here to support me and help me grow. It’s very rare to find someone who can love without judgement or fear of past decisions, and I’m so grateful to have found that with you.
Thank you for celebrating me as much as you celebrate us. I love that we’re together, but I also love how much value you see in me as my own person, outside of the ‘us’ bubble. I’m so happy that you can celebrate my successes as if they are your own, rather than resent my abilities and hold me back.
Thank you for letting me be a part of your life, and involving me in all the wonderful things you do. I’ve enjoyed getting to know you so much, and I feel like I learn something new about you every day. I love that I can be your support system, and your biggest cheerleader, at every stage of your journey.
Thank you for showing me what love means, for creating such a safe space that I can truly be myself and live comfortably, knowing that I am special and cared for. I didn’t fully know who I was until I met you and had the strength to uncover all the parts of myself I had hidden away through shyness and shame.
Thank you for being the perfect husband, and for preparing to be the perfect father. I cannot wait to spend the rest of my life with you and raise a family together. I know you’re going to be the ‘nice’ one who lets them stay up late, and that I’ll be the grumpy one telling them to tidy their rooms – and I love that about us. How perfectly we balance each other and how we tackle everything as a team.
Thank you for allowing me to love myself, to see myself truly and honestly. For showing me the light in my soul where I have only ever seen dark, and the beauty in the parts I have kept hidden away. To know you is to know myself, and that is a gift I will cherish forever.
Thank you for your kindness. For covering me with a blanket when I fall asleep on the couch and for taking the spiders out of the shower. For kissing my forehead when I’m sick and for taking me dancing when I’m happy. For holding me close and for taking me on far-flung travels. For showing me the world and for sharing your world with me.
Thank you for being strong, and for being weak. I love that you can carry us and I love knowing that you’ll always have my back. I love that we’re a team, and that we can overcome any difficulty we face. I love that you can let your guard down with me and I love that you share every inch of your soul with me. I love that you can cry, and ask to be held, and that I am the one you choose to do that with.
Thank you for giving me a life of adventure – for all the trips and fun we’ve had together, and all the years left to fill. You’ve taken me to the most beautiful places on earth, the tiniest restaurants tucked up Italian side-streets, the most stunning beaches, deserted forests, and the hottest balconies in Paris. I will never not say yes to an adventure with you.
Thank you for being faithful. I know that I can trust you and that our mutual loyalty is what keeps us so strong. I never have to worry about you finding anyone else because we both know that what we have is sacred. You’re always on time, you’re always honest, and you’re always here.
Thank you for being my sounding board. I love having someone to bounce ideas off, and to share my dreams with. I love having someone to calm me down when I get upset or angry, and to pump me up when I need a boost. I love having someone to fight my corner, and to give me the armor to fight on my own. Your balanced mind keeps me true to who I am, and your faith in me keeps me moving forwards, always.
Thank you for loving my family! I know they can be hard work sometimes, but it means the world to me that you make an effort with them. Inviting them to dinners, involving them in big discussions and sharing our life with them means so much, and I will forever be in awe of your endless patience with them, especially when you disagree with them!
Thank you for being you. Thank you for being the better half of ‘us.’ Thank you for showing me love.
With my love,
Your future wife.