When we say someone is cold, we’re not always referring to their temperature.
Sometimes we mean they have a cold heart. But what exactly does that mean?
To help you understand, here are 13 traits a cold-hearted person might exhibit.
1. They are uncaring and unempathetic.
Cold-hearted people are often very unsympathetic about other people’s problems or pain.
They tend to lack the basic empathy that makes up a lot of our humility as individuals.
Because they’re quite stand-offish themselves, they find it almost impossible to imagine that not everyone is built that way.
They don’t realize that other people extend empathy and warm feelings to their friends, over even strangers.
They are so caught up in their world that lacks caring, friendship, and vulnerable emotions.
2. They are distant and detached.
People with cold personalities may come across as shy or aloof at first, but they’re generally just detached from everything around them.
They don’t always experience feelings in the same way as most people, so can either find it difficult to be in groups of people or just don’t care enough to join in with anything.
More often, it’s the latter. They tend to keep distant from anything that involves too much emotion or interaction.
3. They come across as superior and unkind.
There’s often an element of haughtiness around cold-hearted people – they feel as though they’re superior to you and act as if you’re not even worth their time.
They can be very unkind at times – this is down to the fact that they just don’t care about basic niceties or other people’s emotions.
They can even be mean intentionally, going out of their way to make you feel bad about yourself.
4. They are often self-centered and self-absorbed.
You may have noticed that a lot of cold-hearted people are borderline obsessed with themselves – they seem themselves as above everyone else.
They tend to believe that they are incredibly important, attractive, and interesting, and don’t need to bow down to basic human interactions such as small talk or empathy.
They don’t really have any interest in other people, so probably won’t ask you much about yourself, and, if you reveal any personal information to them, they won’t listen or care, anyway.
5. They are untrusting and untrustworthy.
Trusting a cold person is very hard – you never know if they understand how important things are to you, as they clearly don’t hold a lot of things dear.
They might not care why you want to keep a certain thing a secret, which makes it hard to know if you should confide in them or not.
They’re quick to lie – they don’t care what happens if they do, after all.
Equally, they don’t trust the people around them either. They often see the worst in other people – again, seeing themselves as superior to everyone else – and don’t forge many close friendships or relationships.
This lack of human interaction and empathy can further reinforce why they don’t trust other people.
6. They are self-reliant and stubborn.
Because they see those around them as inferior, they only rely on themselves to get things done.
Being self-reliant can be brilliant in a lot of ways, and normally shows a healthy level of self-confidence and capability.
In cold-hearted people, however, it’s linked to the fact that they think they are just so much better than everyone else – at everything.
They tend to be pretty stubborn too. After all, they know best, right?
7. They are likely to betray others.
People who are emotionally cold lack empathy, and they don’t always see actions in the same light as those who have healthy levels of empathy.
As such, they can betray those around them, either intentionally or otherwise.
They may go out of their way to humiliate or hurt you, simply because they can and they don’t care about the consequences.
Equally, they may accidentally do something to upset you because they themselves wouldn’t be upset if someone did the same to them.
Either way, they probably won’t feel any remorse for it…
8. They are repeat offenders.
So, they’ve done a few things you don’t agree with. So has everyone, right?
Well, cold-hearted people are likely to keep doing those same things over and over again.
As we’ve mentioned, they don’t have the same empathy levels as most people, so don’t feel bad for upsetting those around them.
As such, they may keep treating you badly, or hurt you in the same ways repeatedly. This is often due to their belief that you’re inferior – that you deserve to be made to feel bad, almost.
They might cheat on you multiple times and not care that it hurts, or they might continually spread rumors about you, for example.
They know what they’re doing and they have a malicious intent.
9. They are quick to move on.
If you ever manage to forge a seemingly genuine connection with a cold-hearted person, don’t be surprised if it ends abruptly.
They’re quick to leave you out in the cold and will disregard how sad that may make you feel.
This is due to the lack of any kind of emotional or spiritual connection that they make with those around them.
Whether it’s a defense mechanism or just being plain nasty, they will drop you as quickly as they picked you up, beware!
10. They are manipulative.
Cold-hearted people are so unfazed by the consequences of their actions that they can often ‘recruit’ you to become similar to them.
They may get you to do things you’re not comfortable with, or force your hand in terms of how you act and speak.
They might guilt-trip you or blackmail you into things, all because they can.
11. They are destructive.
Because they don’t see the value in things that other people see as sacred, they have no problem ruining them.
Family events can be wrecked, friendships can be broken up, and other people’s relationships can be something to mess with for ‘fun.’
Cold people don’t appreciate or acknowledge other people’s feelings, so have no issue doing things that will massively upend their lives.
12. They are soul-crushing.
If you’ve ever been friends with a cold-hearted person, you’ll know how bad they make you feel at times.
It’s so confusing being played with, never knowing if you actually matter to them and if they genuinely care about you or not.
They might make you second-guess yourself or force you to question your own self-worth.
They’ll be determined to stay on top and be superior, not caring how damaging their behavior may be for you and your self-esteem.
13. They are perpetually single.
They’re not really bothered about forging emotional connections with anyone and are too self-involved and selfish to be in a good, healthy relationship.
As such, most cold-hearted people remain single for a long time, or have a string of very short, meaningless ‘relationships.’
Their inability to trust or be trusted makes it hard for them to commit.
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