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5 Reasons You Have A Deep Spiritual Connection With Someone

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Many people talk about having a strong spiritual bond with someone, but what does this mean, exactly?

Most of us have experienced an intense attraction to others, but when it’s a deep spiritual connection, that attraction seems to hit us mind, body, and soul… not just body.

There’s instant familiarity, understanding, and a driving need to spend more time with the luminous soul who has stepped into our world.

So where do these connections come from, and what purpose do they serve?

“I know you from somewhere.”

Just about all of us have experienced a connection with a new person that felt like we were re-meeting an old friend.

If this has happened to you, then you’ll know exactly what I mean.

This new person is instantly familiar to us: we’re immediately comfortable in their presence, and spending time with them makes us feel happy.

This could be a new friend, a new lover, or even an amazing co-worker at a new job.

Whoever it is, we just know them on a deep level that we may not know how to explain.

We may find ourselves nodding along with everything they say, looking like sycophantic imbeciles despite the fact that we totally relate to them on every level.

Finishing each other’s sentences isn’t uncommon, nor is finding out that we’ve led parallel lives somehow.

There’s an intense, bubbling energy in our very cores that just has to be acknowledged as special.

So why do we have these feelings?

Who are these magical people, and what roles do they have to play in our lives?

There are many different ideas as to what these spiritual bonds can mean.

Let’s take a look at a few of them, and see if we can determine which of them you’re experiencing.

1. You may have met part of your soul family.

We’ve all experienced existence over numerous lifetimes, and as a result, have been part of different family dynamics time and time again.

Many people believe that we naturally gravitate toward “soul family” members in every incarnation, so when you meet someone and immediately feel like you’ve known them before, you probably have!

This person could have been your parent, sibling, aunt/uncle, grandparent, or even child in a previous lifetime. 

Hey, it’s possible that you’ve spent time together countless times over, so it’s no surprise that you’ve found each other once again.

In the same way that you’ll often be able to find a close friend in a crowd just because you can sense them, so can members of a soul family find one another again, even if they’re on opposite sides of the planet.

In fact…

2. Some karmic debt or balance may be in order.

You might be meeting again in order to balance out some scales from previous lives.

Let’s say that you meet someone who’s incredibly protective of you, and who ends up either saving your life, or taking care of you through a difficult illness.

You might have saved them in a previous lifetime, or perhaps they failed to protect you from harm last time, and this time around they have the opportunity to succeed in that.

Alternatively, you two might have wronged one another last time around, and now you have the chance to make things right.

This often happens with parent/child relationships. You may have an intense spiritual bond with your parent, despite the fact that you have a difficult relationship with them.

In a case like this, it could very well be a situation where you were the parent last time around, and now you’ve reversed roles in order to understand one another (and yourselves) a bit better.

After all, we can rarely understand another’s perspective until we’ve lived in their shoes for a little while, right?

We tend to keep repeating the same mistakes in this life until we manage to sort ourselves out and jump the groove to break the cycle.

Similarly, we may need a few lifetimes to break free from repeating more intense behavior cycles.

Hopefully you’ll both get things right this time!

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3. This may be one of your soulmates.

There’s a common saying that people come into our lives for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.

Soulmate relationships happen when we need to experience something monumental for our own personal growth and development, and they can last anywhere from a few hours to several decades.

These connections are intense, powerful bonds, and can be either platonic or romantic.

Some people can get really confused by soulmate relationships, because the bond may have the kind of intensity we’re used to experiencing in sexual relationships, only without that zap of intimate attraction.

You may find yourself wondering why you’re so drawn to this person; why you seem to be able to feel what they’re feeling, even across the city (or country), but you don’t necessarily want to sleep with them.

We’ve been so conditioned to equate strong attraction with sexual desire that we often have difficulty processing the idea that we can love someone dearly without needing to bed them.

Friendship-based soulmate connections can be stronger than any sibling bond, or they can be fraught with challenges and disagreements. Or both.

It depends entirely on what you two have to teach one another – what you’re meant to trigger in each other for your soul’s growth.

These kinds of relationships aren’t generally meant to be long-lasting and harmonious. Instead, they’ll shake us free from whatever quagmires we’ve been lodged in so we can continue on our journeys.

We may weave into one another’s lives several times over the years, or this might just be a brief stop on our path.

However it plays out, be sure it’s for a damned good reason, so pay attention!

4. You and a twin flame have reconnected.

This is different from a soulmate relationship, in that it’s usually a gentler, more tender pairing than the one above.

Soulmates are meant to challenge one another, whilst twin flames support, nurture, and harmonize.

You two may have been partners in one way or another many times over.

This is different from your soul family, which is usually comprised of parent/sibling connections, and is instead a romantic bond that happens again and again over centuries.

It’s possible that you’ve dreamt of this person in different forms, remembering various lifetimes you shared together as partners.

Now the time is right for both of you to find one another again, and reconnect on a romantic level.

This can be confusing, especially if you’re already in a relationship with someone else (or vice versa), or if this person is a gender that you’re not normally sexually attracted to.

A lot of soul searching is needed for this kind of a spiritual bond, as it’ll undoubtedly be one of the most intense relationships you’ll ever have.

If you’re ready for it, it can be unbelievably beautiful.

If you’re not, it may be disastrous.

Just be honest with yourself and your potential partner, and flow with things as best you can.

5. You’ve been brought together to truly understand one another.

Some souls gravitate toward one another when they’ve shared similar experiences.

There’s just something in our energy signatures that call out to those of like mind/spirit, ranging from shared interests and passions to past traumas.

For people who have always felt very alone in their interests and experiences, this type of connection can be incredibly validating.

Suddenly, instead of feeling like the black sheep of the family/community, there’s another person who just groks you completely!

You don’t have to explain to this person why peanut butter and pickle sandwiches make you so happy, or why you like to paint landscapes while watching true crime documentaries.

They just “get it.”

That’s a rare, wonderful thing, and may be one of the first opportunities you’ve both had to be understood and accepted unconditionally.

Revel in it, darlings: you deserve such beauty.

Remember that spiritual bonds aren’t limited to humans.

It’s important to remember that many of these spiritual connections can happen between beings of different species.

For example, people who are really close with their animal companions have often felt sudden pangs of intuition toward them, just “knowing” that their friend was in distress, even from many miles away.

This is because spirit isn’t limited by physical form.

When we have a strong spiritual bond with an animal, it’s because our souls recognize something special and sacred in one another.

Something that transcends species, physical bodies, and any other limiting aspect of corporeal existence.

Just like a human, this animal may have come into your life exactly when you needed them to.

It could have been to teach you a lesson, or because you could give them what they required for their soul’s growth.

It could even be a situation of a pet who had passed on a long time ago deciding that they’d like to spend more time with you, thus reincarnating so they could be your companion again.

Alternatively, you could have been their pet in another lifetime, and now is the opportunity for you both to experience a role reversal.

In any case, you now have the chance to enjoy one another’s company yet again.

Celebrate it to your heart’s content, and don’t pay any attention to people who may poke fun at the special spiritual bond you have.

Just because a being isn’t human doesn’t mean it isn’t capable of deep love and friendship, nor is your spiritual connection any less valid just because they’re in a different form.

That’s incredibly important to remember in our increasingly human-centric society.

Also important is that no one else gets to decide whether you have a deep spiritual connection with someone or not.

If you feel – or even know deep down – that you do, trust in that.

Your intuition is one of the most powerful tools you have. Don’t let any naysayers sway you from your Truth.

About The Author

Catherine Winter is an herbalist, INTJ empath, narcissistic abuse survivor, and PTSD warrior currently based in Quebec's Laurentian mountains. In an informal role as confidant and guide, Catherine has helped countless people work through difficult times in their lives and relationships, including divorce, ageing and death journeys, grief, abuse, and trauma recovery, as they navigate their individual paths towards healing and personal peace.