Anxiety plays a role in preventing people asking for help.
It would be awesome if we could come out here and tell you that there is a clear way to move forward without any feelings of discomfort at all, but there’s not.
You’re going to be uncomfortable and it’s just something you have to accept as a price associated with asking for help.
Nothing dispels anxiety about a thing that you need to do like actually going and doing the thing.
The longer you sit and think about it, the more time your doubts have to spin out of control and paralyze your actions.
Delaying also pushes back your ability to make meaningful gains and changes. The longer you wait, the longer you will take.
By all means, take some time to think about it and formulate a course of action, but don’t let yourself sit on the matter indefinitely.
The sooner you take action, the sooner you’ll be able to let that anxiety go and push forward to a successful resolution.
Showing Compassion When Asked For Help
Being asked for help can be an uncomfortable experience, but it doesn’t have to be.
Do consider the type of help that you are being asked for, if it is something you are able to do, and if it is something that will cause harm to your life.
Boundaries are a healthy part of showing compassion for other people…
…sometimes you just can’t help.
…sometimes the help you’re being asked for is too much.
…sometimes you’re just not in a good enough place to offer the kind of help they are requesting.
…and sometimes you may not have the skill, knowledge, or qualification to provide that kind of help.
All of these things are okay. If you can’t help, just aim for not doing harm.
How do you do that?
Opinions are a dime a dozen. Though it may be tempting, it’s often better to keep one’s opinions to oneself in sensitive or delicate matters. So think before you speak.
An unkind word spoken at the wrong time can do a lot of harm to a person by causing them to doubt themselves and others to the point where they won’t ask for help in the near future.
That can result in years of unnecessary suffering if the person can’t shake that opinion.
A solid approach if you are not able to provide the help that is requested is to say, “I don’t feel like that’s something that I can help you with, but I can help you look for someone who can.”
Many people don’t know where to turn to look for the help they need. Having two people trying to find it can significantly ease the burden on the person who is doing the asking and get them moving on a better, healthier path.
Sometimes people need to feel like they are being understood, that someone is on their side. The easiest way to do that is to let them lead the conversation and not overwhelm them with your own opinions and thoughts.
Practice Kindness To Oneself And Others
Be kind to yourself, not just to others. It’s difficult to ask for help, and sometimes it’s difficult to be asked for help.
But we all need some help sometimes.
Human beings are inherently social, emotional creatures that need one another in different capacities.
The more we can work together, the better results we can achieve in all facets of our lives, whether it’s working on our mental health or trying to get something done for work.