We all encounter disappointment in our lives in some way or another, whether it’s coping with the end of a relationship, a work project that didn’t go to plan, or feelings of regret in our personal lives.
Learning how to handle disappointment and overcome the feelings it can bring is so important in helping us live positive, fulfilled lives.
We’ll be running through our top tips when it comes to coping with disappointment and moving on.
Some of these tips are vital for dealing with big disappointments, while others are ideal for getting over little disappointments, and some are effective in both circumstances.
While we might like the idea of jumping into a new lifestyle straight after something disappoints us, it’s important to remember that grieving is a vital part of processing events.
There doesn’t need to be a death for us to grieve, it can simply be the loss of something.
Some aspects of this list are really focused on mental well-being and mindfulness. We’d suggest these coping mechanisms for everyone, of course, but we know that people react to things differently.
If you haven’t found anything from this list that really resonates with you yet, maybe your mind just works in a slightly different way.
Getting active is such a great form of mindfulness, especially for those who tend to veer away from what they see as ‘hippie’ remedies and hate the thought of meditating in a candlelit room!
Keeping your body in good shape is key for all types of health, but moving and engaging with your body is so, so great when it comes to dealing with emotional traumas.
Your mental health will improve so much when you start incorporating exercise into your daily life.
Adding exercise to your lifestyle is so beneficial when it comes to dealing with disappointment. You rediscover your own strength, which can be so easily forgotten when you lose a job or end a relationship.
We lose ourselves to so much during our lives – jobs, relationship, friendships – many of which can be horribly toxic.
By exercising, we get in touch with our bodies again and remember that we are capable.
We might not be power lifters (yet!) but we can do things.
We might not be sprinters, but our bodies can move and carry us.
We might not be gymnasts, but we can engage with our bodies through yoga and Pilates.
The more that we discover our physical potential, the better our mental health becomes, and that includes being able to cope much better with disappointment, sadness, and grief.
What’s more, exercise gives us a boost of our natural feel-good hormones dopamine and serotonin. This hit helps to alleviate the immediate emotional depressant of disappointment.
Make A Physical Change
Again, we can talk all we like about mindfulness in the ‘spiritual’ sense, but some people need something more physical to feel like things are actually changing.
If you want something more solid, make a physical change. By doing something that you can see happening, you’ll start to feel in control again.
If meditation doesn’t work for you, change something that you can witness; something tactile.
Rearrange your living space, get a haircut, get a new piercing, or buy new shoes.
These might not seem like great coping mechanisms at first, but there’s some science behind it all!
By changing something that you can physically touch and see, you’re reminded that you have some control over some things.
By reminding yourself over this power you have, you’ll start to shift your mindset.
Remember that, despite how things may feel, you are in control of how you react. It might take you a while to get there, but you can choose how you deal with each day.
We know that it’s unrealistic of us to suggest that you start every day feeling super positive and ready to move on, so be true to yourself and honor whatever you’re feeling in the moment.
‘Moment’ is the key word there – it’s okay to feel low when you’re reminded of something that upsets you, but don’t turn five minutes of sadness into an entire day of devastation!
Remind yourself that you have the power to shift your mindset. The less time you give yourself to feel down each day, the less time the overall healing process will take.
Find ways to distract yourself, whether it’s spending time with friends, watching old movies, or hitting the gym.
Try out different ways of empowering yourself and you’ll quickly start to overcome the difficulties you’re facing.
Be tough but gentle! Like we say, remember that you have some control of your emotions, but be kind to yourself, too.
Getting your mind and body worked up by reliving whatever happened to make you feel so bad is only going to make things worse.
The more stressed you get, the worse this situation is going to become, and the longer it’s going to take you to get over it.
Try to keep your stress levels as low as possible. While it’s good to distract yourself and stay busy, don’t overdo it.
In-between practicing yoga and joining new community classes, take some time out to just relax.
Have more baths, read before bed, treat yourself to herbal teas and morning pastries!
You deserve to feel good about yourself, and this whole process will take a big toll on your self-esteem.
By rewarding yourself in small ways each day, be it a movie night or buying yourself some flowers, you’ll really start to get back to looking after yourself and showing yourself some love.
Not only will this make you feel better right now, it’ll also help you deal with anything in the future as you’ll be boosting your self-confidence and learning how to love yourself again.
Seek Professional Help
Of course, at some point, seeking professional help is a good idea.
We can offer up lots of advice but, for some people, further support is needed.
If things feel overwhelming or you’re struggling to move on long after something has happened, it’s worth a visit to your doctor.
They’ll be able to advise you on the best ways to cope and overcome whatever is going on in your life.
Lucy is a travel and wellness writer currently based in Gili Air, a tiny Indonesian island. After over a year of traveling, she’s settled in paradise and spends her days wandering around barefoot, practicing yoga and exploring new ways to work on her wellbeing.