How Do Kindred Spirits Differ From Soulmates And Twin Flames?
Oh boy. Okay.
These are three very different flavors of interpersonal connection.
Think of a twin flame as a sort of “shadow mirror.”
You’ll likely have intense chemistry with them, and even have a telepathic or psychic bond with them.
That doesn’t mean it’s going to be a good bond. Or a healthy one.
Twin flame relationships are meant to spark growth and evolution. They reveal our shadows to us, and often shatter us to the core.
This type of shattering can turn us inside-out, so we either end up facing and working through our darkest aspects, or being consumed by them.
Romantic twin flame relationships tend to be on again/off again, with intense fights and passionate reconciliations.
This may go back and forth for years until one (or both) parties have finally had enough.
They will have grown as much as they can, and then the relationship has to come to an end.
In contrast, soulmates are people who are in your life for life.
Some people believe that these are beings who are part of your soul group…
That you’re all woven from the same universal energy thread, if you will: like you’re all parts of the same quilt.
You find each other as you go through life, and you end up playing vital roles in each other’s lives.
In some cases, soulmate relationships may end up being romantic. Just note that it doesn’t necessarily mean that they’ll be long-lasting pairings or marriages.
Some soulmates will have brief physical flings, simply because the connection is so intense, it may be initially interpreted as sexual tension and attraction.
That may fizzle quickly, as both people realize that it’s not a romantic pairing, but still a fierce emotional connection.
That kind of sexual spark isn’t often present with kindred spirit connections.
There will be instant rapport, and warmth, and a feeling of familiarity (as mentioned earlier), but it’s very rare that it’ll manifest as physical chemistry.
If it does, it’s likely to be quite fleeting, and will only serve to form a stronger, platonic bond further along.
It’s more like… as if you discovered a twin of sorts whom you’d been separated from at birth.
There will be a ton of “omg, you too!?!” moments, where you realize that you’re the only two people you know who have read a certain book, or delight in the appalling pairing of chocolate mint ice cream and extra-spicy salsa.
Catherine Winter is a writer, art director, and herbalist-in-training based in Quebec's Outaouais region. She has been known to subsist on coffee and soup for days at a time, and when she isn't writing or tending her garden, she can be found wrestling with various knitting projects and befriending local wildlife.