You know that little voice in your head that sometimes tells you that you’re not great at something, or that a situation is going to turn out badly, so you shouldn’t even bother trying?
Well, that voice can also be a source of great comfort and inspiration, if you allow it the chance to shine. It’s just a matter of re-training that voice to be a force for good.
One effective way to do that is to use positive affirmations to build an internal dialogue full of good wishes and encouragement.
Below are a few affirmations that you can try out to see which ones resonate best with you. Say one or two of them daily for an instant boost to your self-esteem and confidence.
I Am Worthy Of Love, And I Love Myself Unconditionally
You’re an amazing person who has overcome all kinds of hardships, and you are a unique, sparkling unicorn the likes of which this world has never seen before.
You are a worthy person – especially worthy of love – and who better to love you, than yourself?
If you need to, make a list of all the spectacular things you cherish about yourself and turn those into a positivity vision board to hang on your wall. Use glitter and stickers and whatever else will make you smile as brightly as the sun when you look at it.
When we love ourselves unconditionally, forgiving ourselves for any hurts we’ve caused ourselves in the past, and treating each day as a new opportunity for gentle growth and evolution, wonderful things will unfold.
We stand taller, we smile more, we have more self-confidence, and we remember what sacred beings we are.
I Cannot Be Flawed, Because There Is Only One “Me”
So often, people fret and freak out about what they consider to be their flaws.
But what are flaws, other than imperfections when compared to a mean, uniform standard? Like multiple casts made from a single mold, of which some may be cracked, or chipped, etc.
This affirmation is great if you find yourself engaging in negative self-talk, especially with regard to body image. We’re so trained to seek out and criticize the parts of ourselves that aren’t “perfect,” but what standard are we trying to hold ourselves to?
After all, even identical twins have differences.
In the entire world, there has never been another you, nor will there ever be. You are perfect exactly as you are.
I Am An Inspiration to Others
There are undoubtedly many things you do in life that inspire others. Probably more than you can imagine.
You may be very hard on yourself about all the things you feel you aren’t doing well enough, and absolutely not giving yourself credit for all the fabulousness you share with the world.
If you need help believing any of that, try asking a few people around you whether you inspire them in any way.
It’s pretty much guaranteed that you’ll find out some of the ways in which you inspire other people – ways you weren’t even aware of.
Someone else may be in awe of your cooking skills, your patience as a parent, your creativity, or even the fact that you show up and be present and kind to others, even when you’re battling your own demons.
Think about all the times you have stood up for what was right, even in the face of difficulty. When you have followed your heart, your truth, and when others judged you poorly for doing so.
Integrity is doing the right thing even when nobody is watching, and I’m willing to bet you have done exactly that a thousand times over.
Even if it’s as simple as saving a snail from being crushed on a sidewalk, you made a universe of difference to another living thing.
Be proud of yourself, and remind yourself of what a good, decent person you are each and every day.
I Am Enough
A lot of people have received the message from others that they’re either “too much” or “not enough.”
Someone might have been told by family members, friends, or partners that they’re too loud, too quiet, too cautious, not cautious enough, too weird, too basic, etc.
The thing is, we are never going to be the ideal person that everyone else wants us to be, and that’s on them, not us.
If we don’t live up to another person’s expectations, it’s because they have expectations about who they want us to be, rather than loving and accepting us as we are.
You. Are. Enough.
Exactly as you are – today, tomorrow, and forever. However you are, whatever you are capable of giving to the world, in your own perfect beauty.
Say “I am enough” to your mirror’s reflection first thing in the morning, and again whenever you feel the need for it.
Write it on the mirror with a marker if you think that will help you remember, or hell, get it tattooed on your wrist. Whatever it takes to help you remember what an incredible being you are, just as you are.
I Am In Charge Of My Emotions, And I Choose Happiness
Emotions are funny things, in that they often run amok within us and cause all manner of turmoil, when in fact we’re the ones in charge of THEM.
They just tend to forget this (usually because they cause such a mess in their wake that we don’t have the wherewithal to draw them to order again).
By staying present and not allowing emotions – especially destructive ones – to get out of line, we can choose the way we feel… like being happy.
Whatever it is you’re experiencing, you can rest assured that there’s something to be happy about.
Are you stuck inside on a freezing cold or rainy day? It’s a perfect opportunity to pick up that book you’ve wanted to read, brew a cup of tea, and practice some well-needed self-care.
Stressed about work? What’s something you enjoy about your job? Focus on that. And so on, and so forth.
Who would you be if you chose to be happy right now? If you let go of all the things causing you anger, frustration, irritation… all of those.
Remind yourself that you are choosing happiness, and soon every cell in your body will resonate with that choice.
If any of these affirmations help you, please let us know! Or share your own with us in the comments section below.
Catherine Winter is a writer, art director, and herbalist-in-training based in Quebec's Outaouais. She has been known to subsist on coffee and soup for days at a time, and when she isn't writing or tending her garden, she can be found wrestling with various knitting projects and befriending local wildlife.