Achieving something positive for them will help to restore your self-belief.
This doesn’t have to be anything huge. Even small gestures will help you to feel more positive and you’ll begin to climb out of that well of despondency.
Once you start thinking about what others need, you’ve succeeded in shifting your perspective away from yourself as the central character.
You’ll find it’ll help to lessen the burden of those gloomy feelings, defeat and discouragement.
8. Quit complaining – it doesn’t help.
When things don’t go our way, it’s all too easy to complain loudly to anyone who cares to listen.
Is this helpful and does it improve our state of mind?
The truth is that whining about where you are now won’t ever get you where you’d like to be.
It won’t make you happier and it’s really just a waste of time and energy that could be better spent on something more productive.
I have a personal example of how powerful not complaining can make you…
When I cycled from London to Paris in 2012 in a charity challenge, my right knee gave in to a very painful bursitis on early on day 2 of 4 days’ hard cycling.
I wasn’t even half way to my goal and still had a whole lot of miles ahead of me.
Quitting just wasn’t an option with all that sponsorship behind me.
Now, I’m not saying it wasn’t really tough to keep pedaling in spite of the pain (assisted by a veritable cocktail of medications, I’ll admit), but I did.
Although cycling alone (albeit with 100 others, just no one I knew) might seem like a disadvantage when things got so tough, in reality it made carrying on more achievable rather than less.
Because I didn’t have anyone to complain to.
Absolutely no moaning was possible, so I just got on with it, sang out-of-tune Disney songs up the (many) hills as the miles ticked painfully by till the time came for my victory loop around the Eiffel Tower.
I know that if there’d been anyone who’d listened to my woes, I’d have moaned and groaned, given in to the negative gremlins and quite possibly thrown in the towel altogether.
It was a great (if painful) life lesson that’s served me well since.
I was also given an invaluable piece of advice by one of my more inspiring teachers a long time ago.
He said that putting just a little of the energy you waste on complaining into fixing the problem, would pretty soon result in a solution.
He talked good sense.
Just the act of complaining undermines your equilibrium and allows despondency, discouragement and ultimately defeat to take over.
If you quit whining and refuse to accept that you’re merely a victim, you’ll pretty soon realize just what an unstoppable force you can be in the face of adversity.
Working as a freelance copywriter, Juliana is following a path well-trodden by her family, who seem to have 'wordsmithing' in their DNA. She'll turn her quill to anything from lifestyle and wellness articles to blog posts and SEO articles. All this is underpinned by a lifetime of travel, cultural exchange and her love of the richly expressive medium of the English language.