10 Ways To Get Your Life Together Once And For All

Life can be rough.

It can and will throw wave after wave at you, sometimes causing you to flounder as you struggle to catch your breath.

People let you down, plans get derailed, and dreams can dwindle under the stress and chaos of it all.

That doesn’t mean that you have to remain a victim of circumstance or let your life pass you by!

You can seize the initiative, find your peace and happiness, and go after what you want.

So, let’s talk about how to get your life together once and for all!

1. Do talk, but stop complaining excessively.

Here’s the thing that people aren’t going to tell you – listening to someone incessantly complain about their life or position is draining, mostly a waste of time, and actually harms you in the long run.

People generally strive for a middle ground; they politely nod and say, “That’s too bad.” as their friend complains about their situation for the twentieth time.

…and nothing of value gets accomplished.

Does that mean you shouldn’t talk about your problems at all?


But do be clear about why you are talking in the first place.

Are you just talking to talk?

Are you trying to process the emotions associated with the problem you’re having?

Are you looking for solutions?

There are lots of messages in the self-improvement and mental health space telling you to talk about what you feel.

Yet this is not always good advice.

In psychology, rumination is when a person keeps going over the negative things in their life, over and over and over again, which causes them to spiral deeper into their problems.

Ruminating on your problems can worsen depression, anxiety, and cause additional stress.

And that’s really all that complaining without a constructive purpose is.

By all means, vent if you need to vent, but do remember that the people around you have their own problems to deal with too.

Make sure you’re there for them in turn, or you’ll find that they disappear.

And that is an unfortunate, unpleasant lesson to learn the hard way.

2. Live your life proactively instead of reactively.

Do you procrastinate?

Plenty of people do.

We put off until tomorrow what we can get accomplished today!

The problem with procrastination is that it gives you the opportunity to forget to do things that are important or it lets them pile up until a molehill of a problem turns into a mountain.

And then you’re left scrambling to try to make things come together while dealing with the additional problems your inaction created.

Choosing to do nothing just means the decision will be made for you by whatever external forces are pushing you.

What should you do instead?

Live proactively.

Get the things accomplished that you need to do as soon as possible so you clear them from your mind and move on to more important things.

A simple productivity hack that you can use right now is “the Five Minute Rule.”

If it can be done in under five minutes, just do the thing right then and it will be out of your way forever.

Simple, right?

Don’t wait until the last minute. If you do that, life will force you down paths that you don’t want to be on.

Be proactive. Get done what you need to get done as soon as you can get it done.

3. Get organized. Organization is an essential part of success.

Why is organization so important?

Well, if you want to build anything of substance and quality, it’s going to take time and direction.

Organization is important for planning and then executing on that plan.

Let’s say you wanted to construct a building. You don’t want your electricians showing up to install the lights before the crew has poured the foundation, right?

Organization also ties in with living a proactive life.

It’s through organization that you can plan what needs to get done and when (if it’s not something that needs handling immediately).

Maybe it’s something you need to deal with next week.

Maybe you have a deadline a month away.

Maybe you need to make those reservations three months from now.

Find a method of organization that works for you, whether it’s keeping things meticulously neat or embracing the chaos because you know that you left the bills that need to be paid on the pile because that’s where you always put the bills!

You don’t need to live in a state of clinical cleanliness to reap the benefits of organization.

4. Set short, mid, and long-term goals.

The ability to set goals can guide you to where you want to be in your life.

There are many types of goals in life, but they can all be broken down into three categories.

Long-term goals provide the destination that you are traveling to.

Mid-term goals help you gauge progress and make sense of the clusters of short-term goals that you have already knocked out.

And short-term goals are the individual footsteps that carry you on your journey to accomplishing your goals and long-term success.

Goal-setting doesn’t need to be a complicated process…

All you need to do is pick one long-term goal and then reverse engineer how you’d accomplish that goal.

The internet is great for doing that research because you can learn from people who have already accomplished that same thing:

Where can you start?

What do you need to do to get to that goal?

What are the potential pitfalls of pursuing that goal?

What kind of resources and knowledge do you need to accomplish that goal?

Where can you find those resources and knowledge?

Some people like to break their goals down into chunks of time…

What do I want my life to look like in six months? A year? Five years? Ten years? How can I accomplish that goal within that time frame?

5. Cut toxic people out of your life.

You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.

That saying is pointing to how much of an influence the people we surround ourselves with have on our life.

But it goes deeper than that.

It’s difficult to maintain a positive mental attitude and stay focused on your goals if you surround yourself with bitter, cynical people.

It’s difficult to make progress if the people you surround yourself with are constantly belittling you or your efforts.

That doesn’t mean that you need to cut ties with everyone that disagrees with you.

The word “toxic” is thrown around far too casually, particularly at people who might be saying something that needs to be said, but isn’t what you want to hear.

A genuinely toxic person is someone who is doing harm to your well-being.

That can be a calculated effort, but more often than not, it’s a person who is drowning hard in their own problems or dysfunctions to such an extent that it’s damaging the people around them.

It’s important to be kind and sometimes understanding.

It’s also important to have good boundaries in your relationships to ensure that toxic people can’t screw up your life and happiness.

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6. Take better care of your physical health.

Most people could stand to take better care of their physical health.

A healthy diet, adequate sleep, and regular exercise can provide monumental benefits to one’s sense of well-being, mental and emotional health.

After all, how hard is to feel good about life and oneself if you are constantly feeling run down and lethargic.

Contrary to popular belief, one doesn’t need to live a super expensive whole and natural lifestyle to get some of these benefits.

Small steps, such as limiting sugar and caffeine, can improve your overall energy levels, help you sleep at night, and bring your body into a healthier place.

There are a number of processed foods that are just loaded with refined sugars that have a cumulative negative effect on your body.

Make time in your day for some exercise. Even a 20 minute walk a few times a week provides a number of benefits with your internal chemical production, heart health, and brain health.

Exercise also helps improve one’s quality of sleep, which filters down into a positive benefit for your physical and mental health.

7. Do more things that are in tune with your passions.

People need some form of passion in their life.

And the best way to get some of that passion is to tune into what really gets your fires roaring and do more of those things.

Yes, it’s important to be able to provide for yourself and live your life.

But there exists within each of us an artist of some kind, yearning for some creativity, emotional and mental stimulation, and to create.

Maybe you can find fulfillment at your job or in your work, or maybe you can’t.

If you’re not sure where to find it, simply ask:

What do you love doing?

Do you do any of it?

Do you do enough of it?

Do you look forward to it?

If you’re not doing it, why aren’t you doing it anymore?

Was someone unkind to you about something you feel passionately about?

Well, time to start ignoring that toxicity and embrace your passion. Create the thing, play the sport, read the book!

Do more of whatever it is that stokes your fires!

It is so very important to your mental and emotional health to balance your work with some adequate play.

Otherwise, you just wind up burning yourself out and having more difficulty when it’s actually time to get more work done.

Not passionate about anything? Can’t remember what you’re passionate about? Pick anything that interests you and try it for awhile!

8. Work to examine, better understand, and accept who you are.

That’s a big one, isn’t it?

Understanding oneself, let alone accepting oneself, is often a long journey of unwinding difficult thoughts, feelings, and ideas about oneself.

The journey of self-love and acceptance is an all important one.

Being able to wake up in the morning and love who you are, what you bring to the table, and live your life in your own authenticity is a powerful thing that can help guide you to where you want to be.

This ties in to discovering your passions and unlocking the greatest you that may very well be buried under the cruelness of other people or indifference of the world.

And that’s why you need to take the time to get to know yourself.

You need to carefully peel back the layers of those things to find out who you really are and why you are the person that you are.

Life is rough. Life is not always fair. A lot of bad things happen to people that don’t deserve it and those experiences will leave their mark.

But those negative life experiences are not who you are as a person.

They are part of you, a part of you that you need to be able to understand and accept… but they are not who you are.

9. Stop chasing external happiness and validation. Practice gratitude.

Chasing external happiness and validation is much like running on a treadmill to try to catch the carrot that is dangling in front.

It is a constant race that is going nowhere.


Because the happiness that we are chasing in the form of external things is not genuine happiness.

What we’re chasing when we buy the new thing, put the substance in our body, or seek external pleasure is a temporary dose of endorphins and dopamine.

If only I had this, I’d be happy.

If only I had that, I’d be happy.

Maybe for a little while…

But sooner or later you’ll get bored with the thing and then start looking for the next boost of feel good brain chemicals.

It locks us into a nasty cycle of pursuing stuff for the sake of having stuff because we think that stuff is what will give us happiness…

…but it won’t.

That doesn’t mean that money and stuff cannot provide any happiness. To think otherwise is just ridiculous.

Some people aren’t happy because they can’t afford to live or get the help they need.

And that’s understandable because it’s not buying stuff just to buy stuff and be happy.

That’s being able to conduct and live your life, which should be a goal for everyone.

You won’t find happiness by chasing it externally.

Happiness is a quiet, peaceful thing. It’s something you find when you start being okay with yourself and where you are presently at with what you have.

That doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t strive for more. Just don’t get sucked into the trap of thinking that stuff will make you happy.

10. Take action. Do things.

You know what’s worse than failing?

Doing nothing.

Doing nothing guarantees that you will not succeed in what you want to accomplish.

By all means, do take some time to plan and consider your path, but then get out there and actually do things.

Far too many people waste too much time agonizing over every little detail to try to come to their favorable conclusion.

All they’re doing is wasting valuable time; a commodity that you cannot get more of.

Once it’s gone, it’s gone.

So do things.

And yes, you will fail at some of them. Failing is inevitable.

You can choose to fear it and look at it as some great and drastic stop, or you can choose to look at failure as a step on the path of success.

By trying and failing, you are learning things that don’t work, which allows you to hone your approach and build on your strategy.

Furthermore, you learn when you actually get out there and do things.

Direct experience can be a great teacher.

So don’t fear failure. Turn that fear into motivation to succeed.

And don’t let the idea of failure derail you from pursuing what you want out of life.

A lot of times things don’t go as planned, and that’s okay. It doesn’t mean they can’t go well or that a setback is the end of your progress.

It’s not an end so long as you get out there and keep trying.