Just because you were hurt by someone you loved, you do not have to lower your expectations in the future. In fact, you should keep the same expectations or even raise the bar!
7. Leave The Past Behind You
Realize that your past is different than your future. One person’s bad behavior is not a reflection of all humankind.
While it is smart to avoid the same types of people and situations where your trust was violated, you should never let your past experiences allow you to lower your expectations for the future. You deserve to love someone who deserves your trust.
8. Consider The Alternative
Think for a minute about living a life without love and companionship. Doesn’t sound very appealing, does it?
Perhaps the best reason to learn to trust people again is because the alternative is worse. Without meaningful relationships, life really is not worth living.
9. Consider All The Future Possibilities
Sure, you loved the last person. But clearly fate has a different plan for you. It may be hard for you to think about right now, but there is someone out there that is better for you.
Focus on who you will meet in the future. Perhaps one relationship ended so that another can begin.
If you choose not to trust again, you may end up missing out on someone truly incredible. As we all do, someday you will look back and know there was a reason for what happened.
10. Tell Your Story
One day, when you do find that perfect person, and you feel ready to trust them, make sure you communicate openly about your past experience and your fear of future heartbreak.
Not only is it healthy to communicate honestly in the beginning of a new relationship, but you may also find that the new person has a similar story and fears.
Learning to be vulnerable and trust again after a deep pain can feel almost impossible at times. You may think that it is better to stay alone with the only person you can really trust (yourself).
However, relationships are vital to a quality life. Without the trying times, we would never be able to appreciate the good times. So it is best to choose to stay open and to trust even after you’ve been betrayed and hurt.
Love can lead to some of the most intense pain possible, but it can also be the greatest thing you’ll ever experience. After all, no one said love was going to be easy.
Have you been hurt in the past? Did you find it hard to trust someone again? How did you manage it? Leave your advice for others in a comment below.
Melissa Ricker is a nuclear engineer and a professional freelance writer specializing in career growth, technical writing and online entrepreneurship. She writes a blog, Engineered Motherhood, for working mothers who need help balancing career growth and time management.