Perhaps he is career driven or is starting his own business.
Maybe he takes his marathon running very seriously and is committed to his training regime.
Or does he just want to travel to the far flung places of the world without restriction?
If you can convince him that you’re not trying to take these things away from him, he’ll have no reason to pull away because of it.
Make time to ask him about his passions and how they are going. Try to understand what time commitments he has already and be respectful of those.
Be positive about what he wants to achieve and make it clear that you love how he has clear goals and dreams and that you really want to see him succeed.
When a man pulls away, try not to obsess about the reasons why or pine over him too much.
You are a high value woman and no man defines who you are.
So keep yourself busy with your friends, family, or hobbies and enjoy yourself as much as you can.
Remember, you can still communicate with him, and telling him that you have a packed diary will confirm to him that you value your independence too.
If a man can see a future relationship where each individual maintains their own friends and interests, it will address some of his concerns.
How Should I Act When He Comes Back?
If a man truly has feelings for you and wants you in his life, he’ll come back to you eventually.
Even if you have still seen him, text him, or spoken to him in the meantime, there will come a time where he returns emotionally as well as physically.
At this point, what should you do?
How should you act?
Well, don’t go straight to the obvious questions such as why he pulled away, what he wants now that he’s back, and is he going to do it again.
He might not be sure why he felt the need to pull away, so trying to get him to put it into words will end in disaster.
Try to show him how glad you are to have him back. Be affectionate and caring.
Tell him how grateful you are to have him in your life again.
Act how you would like to be in a relationship: happy and content and excited.
Don’t try to make him pay for the way he’s treated you.
Yes, communicate how you felt, but keep it neutral or positive wherever possible.
Say something like:
I know you needed space and time to do your own thing and to process your thoughts and feelings. That’s okay. I don’t need to understand, but if you do want to talk about it now or in the future then I’m always ready to listen.
I missed you. It hurt not to see you as often, but I’m serious about this relationship if you are.
Of course, if you are in a long term relationship and your man withdraws every so often, you probably don’t need to say anything at all.
Just know that this is not an uncommon part of a relationship and be open and welcoming when your partner returns to you emotionally.
How Long Will It Take?
When a man distances himself, how long will he be ‘gone’ for?
It could be a few days or a week. It could be longer.
The real question you have to ask yourself is how long are you prepared to wait.
If your relationship is in its infancy, you may not be prepared to hang around and keep the door open for too long.
But if you are some distance into a relationship, you might choose to give him more time to wrestle with his feelings.
That’s entirely up to you.
Are All Men Like This?
The short answer is: no, not all men feel the need to pull away emotionally or physically from a partner.
But it is fairly common.
Whether it’s just the way men are wired, we might never know.
When they do withdraw, it can be difficult to take, but hopefully this article has given you some actionable advice to follow and helped your understanding of the situation you face.