Do you feel like you are the one doing all of the work in your relationship? Do you only participate in activities that your partner wants to do? Does your partner take you for granted or hide you from important people?
One way relationships still consist of two people, except that in these partnerships only one person does the work. While you may be fully committed to your partner, it may not be enough to keep your relationship alive and thriving. If love is not being reciprocated, it is difficult to build a long-lasting relationship. If you are in a one-sided relationship, you may wonder if you should try to fix it or move on to someone else that might treat you better.
5 Signs You Are In A One-Sided Relationship
Sometimes you may know deep down that you are in a one-sided relationship, but admitting it to yourself and deciding what to do is the toughest part of it all. If it’s less clear in your mind that this is the situation you face, here are the signs that you are definitely involved in such an unbalanced relationship.
1. You Initiate Most Communication
You are the one that makes the phone calls, sends the text messages, and makes the effort to get together. If you don’t make the communication, you’ll go days without hearing anything. You can count on one hand the times that your partner initiated a conversation with you.
2. Your Partner Chooses His/Her Friends Over You
If your partner wants to go out with friends, he or she doesn’t invite you to come along. If you ask your partner to hang out with you and your friends, he or she rejects the offer. It seems as though your partner prefers his or her friends to you.
3. Your Partner Ignores Relationship Problems
You are the only one that tries to talk about the issues that you are experiencing together in your relationship. Your partner rolls their eyes and gets irritated with you for bringing it up again. He or she prefers to ignore the problems you are facing.
4. Your Partner Doesn’t Care About You
If you get the feeling that your partner doesn’t care about you, you are probably right. If you are in a one-sided relationship, your significant other does not care about making you happy. He or she doesn’t ask about your day or listen to your stories. Instead, the only thing you do talk about (when you actually talk) is your partner’s life.
5. You Constantly Worry The Relationship Is Falling Apart
You are stressed all of the time because you are worried that your relationship is about to be over. The worst part is that somehow you think it is your fault. You have tried to address the issues, but your partner just isn’t interested.
Can You Fix A One-Sided Relationship?
If you are determined to give it your all, you can try to fix a one-sided relationship. There is no magic formula, and it may not work at all. Sometimes the relationship cannot be fixed, and once you realize this, you will be able to leave knowing that there wasn’t anything you could do. Equality and respect are vital to all relationships, so unless you can get the balance that you need and deserve, your relationship might be doomed.
If you feel that you are in a one-sided relationship and want to fix it, try these strategies to determine if your relationship has a viable future.
1. Find Out If Your Partner Is Willing To Change
You won’t be able to fix a one-sided relationship by yourself. Your partner will have to be an active participant. The first thing you need to ask yourself is “Is my partner willing to change?” If he or she is not willing, there isn’t much you can do. Before you spend all of your energy chasing this relationship, find out if it has a chance.
2. Sort Out Your Feelings
Before you can start to communicate effectively with your partner, you need to get a handle on how you really feel. How does being in a one-sided relationship make you feel? Are you frustrated, scared, sad, or anxious? Perhaps you are confused as to how you ended up in this situation. The more you can get in touch with your own feelings, the better you will be able to communicate effectively. Take some time to yourself to get all of your emotions sorted out first.
Communication is the only way to fix a one-sided relationship, so you have to have the big talk with your partner. Without getting angry, carefully explain to your partner about what is going on and how you feel. If your significant other is committed to you, he or she will listen. If they are not interested in putting forth the effort, they will show little regard for your feelings.
4. Focus On One Problem At A Time
Stay focused on one issue at a time so that you avoid overwhelming your partner. You don’t want him/her to feel attacked. Stay specific and avoid bringing up past issues. Stay in the present. Even if your partner gets defensive and tries to bring up irrelevant issues, stay the course and avoid getting emotional. No one said this would be easy.
5. Focus On Yourself
Try to spend some time focusing on yourself. Growing your own life is the easiest way to fix a one-sided relationship. How long has your life been dominated by the whims of your partner? Break the cycle. What do you want out of life? What do you enjoy doing? Spend some time reflecting and building your own life – outside of your relationship.
Sometimes when you are in the middle of a relationship, it can be hard to see clearly. A successful relationship requires two people loving and caring for each other – not only one person. If your partner really does love you, he or she will take action to correct the behaviors that are making you unhappy. If you do not see a positive change, it is time to value yourself more than you value your relationship. Life is too short to be in a toxic relationship that drags you down. You are worth more than that.
Have you experienced a one-side relationship before? What one piece of advice would you offer to someone reading this who’s in one now? Leave a comment below with your pearls of wisdom.
Melissa Ricker is a nuclear engineer and a professional freelance writer specializing in career growth, technical writing and online entrepreneurship. She writes a blog, Engineered Motherhood, for working mothers who need help balancing career growth and time management.