Can you imagine what would happen when there is a disagreement between two stubborn people?
You would both hold your ground and probably end up ending things just because you each refuse to admit any wrongdoing. (Not to mention that regular bickering is also a sign of incompatibility as we’ll discuss in just a minute.)
Has communication failed? You don’t have a lot to say to each other anymore. You text instead of talk on the phone or sit down face-to-face. The two of you have fallen into a routine that looks more like a ninety-year-old couple.
Does this sound familiar?
While some communication breakdown is normal and expected, too much of it can be fatal for your relationship.
Let me explain. If you are no longer communicating well with your partner, your relationship is in a rut. If you want to get out of that rut, you’ll need to find new interests or challenges together.
If you stay in a boring routine too long, your relationship will go stale and it will be difficult to salvage.
Try to introduce a variety of different activities that the two of you can do together. Turn off all digital distractions and talk to each other!
If your partner isn’t interested in making these changes, it is a sign that your relationship is not going to work out after all.
5. The Love Just Isn’t There Anymore
Does your heart beat a little faster when you see your mate? It probably used to, but over time it has faded a bit or gone away completely. The magic is gone.
Sometimes people stay with partners whom they no longer love because it is comfortable. Change is tough, so they would rather just stick it out and endure the emotional incompatibility.
The problem comes years later when their unhappiness is too much to live with. Those people end up resentful and miserable.
If you feel like the spark is gone in your relationship, try reconnecting again. Go on a date. Hold hands. Pretend that you just met. Do something different to mix it up.
Try to remember the reasons you first fell in love. If it still doesn’t work, it might be time to reevaluate your relationship and move on.
6. Your Partner Spends More Time With Friends
If your partner is channeling more energy and time into someone or something other than you, it is a possible sign that they have lost interest in your relationship.
There must be a time investment from both sides. If your partner isn’t making the time for you and regularly chooses friends or hobbies over you, your relationship may be doomed.
If you want to fix your relationship, you must have your partner set aside time for you frequently (preferably every day).
Having a plan when you first try to resolve your issues shows that you are committed to working things out.
If your partner isn’t interested, hit the road now. You are worth more.
7. Bicker, Bicker, Bicker
Arguing and bickering are things that all couples do. There is no way around it. The two of you are going to disagree from time to time, and sometimes that is ok.
Some amount of arguing is considered healthy (although you shouldn’t consider arguments part of the desired communication mentioned above).
If the arguing ever turns abusive, it is time to make a quick exit. But if you are just bickering and want to stop, try calling a truce and see if you can hold it for a week.
If the arguing is difficult to stop, you can always try couple’s therapy.
No matter how bad things get in your relationship, it can be difficult to realize when to call it quits. All relationships require hard work, lots of energy, and time.
Sometimes, however, there are strong telltale signs that you and your partner are incompatible. When you recognize those signs, you can choose to end the relationship now instead of investing even more of your precious time trying to remain in a dead end relationship.
Melissa Ricker is a nuclear engineer and a professional freelance writer specializing in career growth, technical writing and online entrepreneurship. She writes a blog, Engineered Motherhood, for working mothers who need help balancing career growth and time management.