Once they have your trust and they’re in possession of some information about you, a person may start using it to exert control over you.
Often this type of behavior starts innocently enough.
They’ll be nice to you, although it’s more of a fake niceness.
If you listen to your instincts, you may well feel that something is not quite right about the relationship.
In time, your gut response will prove to be right.
Keep an eye on the way they interact with others. Do your best to follow your instincts and get away before you are hurt by their abuse of your trust.
6. They are excessively charming.
It’s usually a pleasure to meet friendly and open people.
But there’s a whole world of difference between that and a person who seems overly sweet and charming.
Their behavior may well trigger your intuitive suspicions in spite of their friendliness.
Under that super-nice exterior often lurks a traitorous streak, which will show itself sooner or later.
If you analyze what’s going on, you’ll notice that they constantly seek to know more about you, yet never reveal much about themselves.
The usual exchange of information between new acquaintances or friends doesn’t happen.
Sooner or later, you’ll find out their true agenda, but by then you may discover it’s not easy to extricate yourself from their clutches.
7. They are fickle.
Being indecisive is vastly different from being fickle.
Let’s face it, most of us are indecisive when it comes to trivialities like choosing from a menu with too many tempting options.
And, of course, we all change our minds now and again, occasionally even about important issues.
The difference with fickle people is that you can never trust any of their decisions, no matter how important the matter being considered.
They will flip and flop between vastly different options.
Their emotional state can be volatile and the outcome of their decisions shows a pattern of inconsistency.
Not only that, a fickle person will make promises they quickly come to regret and then retract.
Their erratic feelings mean they’re never certain of the reasons for the decisions they make.
They are more likely to be influenced by external factors rather than obeying their internal compass. That’s because it isn’t strong enough to guide them as it should.
It’s not volatility per se which indicates someone is not to be trusted.
A wildly fluctuating emotional state that leads to constant changes of mind or the inability to make a decision and stick to it, however, means that there’s no anchor on which to base your trust.
8. They fail to fulfil commitments.
Tardiness is one of the clearest indicators that an individual has no respect for the value of your time.
A trustworthy person will make the effort to be on time out of respect.
Sometimes delays are unavoidable, but making a quick call or sending a brief message is the obvious thing to do when it happens.
However, if a person often shows up late without making any effort to let you know that they’re delayed, or – worse still – fails to turn up at all, that’s a clear sign that they can’t be trusted to fulfil their commitments.
If they change or cancel plans at the drop of a hat without letting others know, they clearly don’t understand the value of other people’s time.
They don’t see that their actions impact upon others, or just don’t care.
When this happens in business, it’s seriously unprofessional behavior which will undermine any trust.
Among friends, it will pretty soon become clear that this person can’t be counted on.
9. They show narcissistic traits.
A narcissist can only see life from their own perspective.
Nothing is more important than themselves and everyone else’s role is to be subservient to them.
They are masters of playing the blame game and making sure that others take the rap for mistakes they have made but will never own up to.
From their egocentric perspective, the fault will always lie at someone else’s door.
Working as a freelance copywriter, Juliana is following a path well-trodden by her family, who seem to have 'wordsmithing' in their DNA. She'll turn her quill to anything from lifestyle and wellness articles to blog posts and SEO articles. All this is underpinned by a lifetime of travel, cultural exchange and her love of the richly expressive medium of the English language.