13 Things To Expect As Your Relationship Passes 3 Months

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If you’ve just hit, or are about to hit, the 3-month mark in your relationship, it’s natural to feel a little bit nervous.

We’ve all heard about the 3-month itch, but don’t worry – your relationship is far from doomed! Sure, a few things might change, but that’s not necessarily a bad thing.

Here are 13 things to look out for and expect as you cross that 3-month mark with your partner…

1. It suddenly feels real.

It might start to really sink in that you’re properly with someone! The first few months of a relationship can go by very quickly, and it’s not until you reach a ‘milestone’ that you realize just how long you’ve been together. 

2. You bicker or argue more.

The more you get used to each other and let your guards down, the more likely you are to bicker.

This is totally normally – after all, you argue with your close friends and family! It’s a sign that you’re comfortable with each other.

You know you both like each other, so a small argument over something silly isn’t going to rock the boat. You’re at the stage where you no longer need to be scared that something small is going to push them away! 

3. You panic.

It’s common to have a little commitment-related freakout when you hit the 3-month mark.

It’s a reminder that you’re in a relationship, and however much you like the other person, you might suddenly feel a bit trapped or anxious, even wondering if you should end things and date other people.

This tends to be a brief panic for most people, and it’s normal to feel this way. If it lingers in your mind a lot and you start to really look for an escape, you might need to have a serious think about how you feel! 

4. You feel closer than ever.

Of course, if things are going well, your bond is probably going to be at its strongest right now.

You’re 3 months in, so you’re likely to be spending lots more time together and you’ll both be playing bigger roles in each other’s lives.

You’re involved in a lot more and plan your time around each other more than you ever used to before! 

5. You can finally relax.

This is such a great benefit of hitting 3 months into your relationship. No more games, no more worrying why they’re not replying to your text straight away. You both obviously like each other and can relax knowing you’re both on the same page. 

6. Your true selves come out.

This can be a blessing and a curse!

Most people are on their best behavior when they first start dating someone. They want to make a good impression so they make an effort, keep their house nice and clean for when you come over, and have great table manners.

As times goes on, you get more comfortable with each other – and that best behavior might start to slip.

You might notice annoying habits they’ve kept secret, or they might tell you things they didn’t want you to know before!

While it might be a bit daunting, and even disappointing, to realize that your once-pristine partner is actually a huge slob, try to see it as a positive that they feel comfortable and secure enough to really, truly be themselves around you. 

7. You might drop those three little words.

If you haven’t already, you might now be thinking about saying “I love you” at the 3-month relationship mark.

Of course, every relationship moves at its own pace and you shouldn’t rush into anything you’re not happy with.

That being said, a lot of people feel like once they’ve been together for a few months, they know the other person well enough to say those three words – and they know you well enough to know what your response will be…

8. You’re a fully-fledged couple now.

You’ll start to notice you use the words ‘us’ and ‘we’ all the time now! You’re a proper couple and you do a lot more together – people know you as a couple, you hang out with other couple friends and you’re a full-on ‘us’!

9. Your sex life changes.

This is completely normal and shouldn’t be any cause for concern. Once you’re comfortable with a partner and regularly spend time together, one or both of you is likely to drop off a bit in terms of libido.

This could be because they’re confident they’re going to have regular sex so no longer feel the need to do it every time they get a chance!

It could also be because you’re more comfortable with each other and can enjoy just hanging out, rather than the earlier days of dating where sex was a way of expressing your feelings before you were comfortable actually discussing them! 

10. The romance dwindles.

Again, this is just something that tends to happen when couples get comfortable. You know that you’ll have a great time just chilling on the sofa together, so do you really need to make a big effort and go all out with a fancy restaurant dinner?

The more you enjoy just being with each other, the less effort you’ll feel the need to make.

Of course, it’s great if you still want to make each other feel wined and dined, and make each other feel special and desired, but don’t be alarmed if you’re suddenly on the sofa in your trackies eating pizza and talking absolute nonsense! 

11. Your lives are more integrated.

You might have noticed that you spend more time as a couple with friends than you used to.

When you first start dating, you’re trying to figure out how you might fit into each other’s lives. When you hit the 3-month mark, you’re likely to have met their friends and maybe even family, you’ve figured out which hobbies you can share with each other and your lives merge much more. 

12. You let your guard down.

Once you’ve been with your partner for 3 months, you know each other pretty well. As such, you’re more likely to let your guard down, share your feelings, and open up about things that really matter to you.

This can really help strengthen your relationship and will help your partner open up to you more too.

You’ll find yourselves sharing deeper emotions, secrets, and insecurities as you grow closer. 

13. Your wild some comes out.

Now that you’re both used to each other’s company, your silly sides will really start to come out!

This is such a fun stage of a relationship and something special to share with the person you care about.

You stop feeling like you need to be ‘perfect,’ you no longer feel ashamed or embarrassed of your quirks, and you can really let your freak flag fly! 


So, for everything you’ve read about the ‘3 month relationship curse,’ remember that there are so many other amazing things to come from reaching this stage with someone.

You really start to get to know someone when you’ve been together for this long and you can share so much more with them.

If you’re wondering if the shift in your relationship is normal or okay, it is! Things naturally change as time goes on, and as long as you’re both happy on the whole, embrace it.

Here’s to many more relationship milestones…

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Lucy is a travel and wellness writer currently based in Gili Air, a tiny Indonesian island. After over a year of traveling, she’s settled in paradise and spends her days wandering around barefoot, practicing yoga and exploring new ways to work on her wellbeing.