36 ways to woo a girl, make her desire you, and make her your girlfriend

What do women want?

How can you woo a girl and turn your crush or a date into a girlfriend?

Well, believe it or not, it’s simpler than you might think.

Men have debated what women want for ages, but, in reality, most women actually want the same kind of guy. And you’re in luck because you’ll find the description of this guy below.

Don’t worry, you don’t have to change who you are to be him. It’s all about the way you act around a woman and how you treat her.

It’s really not that complicated to be the kind of guy this girl will want to fall for.

Women have repeatedly said what they want in a man. We’ve seen it in every romantic movie ever made. It can seem confusing, but it’s really quite simple.

If you treat a woman like a gentleman, show her respect and affection, and listen to her when she talks, you are off to a good start.

Here are some of the things that you can do to woo her and win her heart:

1. Be sincere.

Obviously, no woman wants a man who will feed her lies. It can be tempting to make the truth sound better than it really is, but restrain yourself from doing this.

Be genuine with the woman you like, and she’ll appreciate it.

Women are tired of deceitful men who pretend that they’re something they’re not. Every woman has been lied to by some guy who just wanted to get into her pants. So, we have learned to steer clear of certain men as soon as we notice dishonesty.

After all, if you want to win her heart, you want her to like you for who you are, not for who you’re pretending to be. Be honest about yourself and your intentions, especially if they’re serious.

2. Spend a lot of time with her.

Playing hard to get, hot and cold, avoiding a girl, or ignoring her to get her to like you might have worked in high school. But these games only tend to work if a girl has already decided that she likes you. And if she has, there’s no need for games anyway.

If you play these games, a woman is just going to think that you’re not interested in her. So, show that you actually are. Spend a lot of time with her and put effort into getting to know her better.

Give her space too, but make sure that she’s aware of your interest in her. Plan fun activities and dates that will let her get to know you well enough to fall for you.

3. Be a gentleman.

Opening doors for a woman, being polite, and escorting her home are things that will help to make her fall in love with you. Whether they like to admit it or not, all women want a Prince Charming.

Maybe they can’t be with an actual prince, but they can be with a man who has the manners of one. Your small chivalrous gestures won’t go unnoticed. They make a woman feel special and respected. She’ll realize that you’ll take good care of her, and that’s important to a woman.

What’s more, good manners are actually very attractive in a man. You’ve probably seen women with men who have no manners whatsoever. Yes, it can happen, but I’m sure they would prefer a dream guy who’ll show them that chivalry is not dead.

4. Dress to impress.

Everyone knows that clothes are important to women. Fashion wouldn’t be what it is if it wasn’t for women. However, we don’t care just about our own clothes. As the song says, “They come runnin’ just as fast as they can ’cause every girl crazy ’bout a sharp-dressed man.”

Most men don’t care as much about dressing up as women do. So, girls appreciate it when they run into men who take care of their appearance.

Before you see your girl, make sure that you’re clean and that you smell great. However, don’t stop there. Take some time to pick the right outfit that fits your body type and highlights your best features.

You don’t want to look too formal or too casual, but a combination of formal and casualwear can look fantastic.

5. Be confident.

Unlike a lack of self-esteem or arrogance, confidence is extremely sexy in a man. While it’s good to be able to make fun of yourself, know the difference between joking around and putting yourself down. Don’t put others down either.

Be confident in who you are and how you approach others. Don’t talk poorly about yourself, and feel free to express your thoughts and opinions. Be aware that you can make mistakes and be prepared to own them and press forward. Talk and walk with confidence to impress the girl you like.

6. Give her compliments.

Back to Prince Charming… You might not be a prince, but you can definitely be charming. Ditch the small talk and engage in long, meaningful conversations with this girl.

Give her compliments related to her looks as well as her personality. She might be beautiful, but she might also be hardworking, ambitious, kind, and witty. Mention the things you notice about her and turn them into compliments.

While you should compliment her on her looks, don’t focus purely on the outside. Make sure to compliment her on the things that describe her as a person, so she knows that you’re serious about her.

7. Flirt with her.

Build sexual chemistry by flirting with the girl you like. Tease her, touch her, and find excuses to be close to her. If you have a great sense of humor, use it to your advantage and make her laugh.

Make eye contact and let the look in your eyes tell her how badly you want her. Allow your body language—and the way you act around her—to show that you’re interested in her.

You can also use texts to flirt, but make sure that you flirt when you see each other in person too. Remove a strand of hair from her face and put it behind her ear. Discreet touches like that could get the sparks flying.

8. Make her laugh and be spontaneous.

Try your best to make her laugh, but be careful not to come off looking like a jerk that makes offensive jokes. Break the ice by cracking a joke when you see each other. If the girl likes you, she will probably laugh at your jokes even if they’re not that funny! Everyone knows that women like men who can make them laugh.

Don’t forget to be spontaneous as well. Take her for a stroll and walk into the first place that seems interesting. Surprise her every now and then by being unpredictable. Touch her when she doesn’t expect it. Introduce her to new places. Keeping things fresh and exciting will undoubtedly help your cause.

9. Give her your full attention.

You should put your phone away when you’re on a date with a girl you like. She deserves and needs your full attention, so don’t keep looking at your cell. Leave it in your pocket or a bag and focus entirely on her.

Don’t let your eyes wander the room, and avoid becoming distracted by things around you. Look at her like she’s the only girl in the room, and she’ll feel like she is.

Pay attention to what she’s saying and ask questions to get to know her better. Be careful not to turn the date into an interview though. Avoid asking too many questions – two in a row is more than enough.

10. Remember her likes and dislikes and use them to surprise her.

You are probably going to learn about this girl’s interests and preferences, so use that information to get her to like you. If she mentions enjoying bowling, then you can make a mental note and plan a trip to the bowling alley for your next date.

Perhaps she said she collects stamps. With this in mind, you can give her the perfect gift the next time you see her.

If she likes jazz music, take her to a jazz club on your next date.

Use her likes and interests to surprise her and show her that you were paying attention. Turn them into dates and gifts, and she’ll be impressed by your effort.

11. Give her a thoughtful present.

Everyone likes gifts, and they don’t need to be expensive. In fact, a thoughtful gift related to her interests might impress her much more than a random expensive gift anyway.

Her favorite candy, the book she wants, the wine she likes… It could be anything that you know she’ll enjoy.

You could tell her that you saw it, and it reminded you of her, so you had to get it. Just like the gift reminded you of her, it will make her think of you for as long as she has it. So, try to choose something that can last forever, like a book.

12. Be there for her when she needs you.

When someone is looking for a partner, they want someone who’ll be there for them in their time of need. Don’t bail on a girl when it gets tough. If she’s sick, show up with hot chicken soup. If she’s sad, be there for her. You can try to cheer her up or simply give her a shoulder to cry on.

This is the surest way to get a girl to like you because she needs to know that she can count on you. However, be careful not to get trapped in the friend zone. Be the person she can turn to when she needs someone, but don’t be purely someone she complains to.

13. Offer to help.

Does she need help with anything? Maybe her laptop stopped working, she needs help carrying groceries, or she wants to rearrange the furniture in her home. Be up for the task and show that you can be of use to her.

If you are unable to help, you can always give her advice. Let her know that she can turn to you. Show her that you want to make her life easier, and she’ll truly appreciate it.

However, don’t let her use you. If she reaches out to you only when she needs help, then she’s not the girl for you.

14. Truly listen to her.

Get her to talk about herself more than you talk about yourself. No one enjoys a date where they don’t get to talk about themselves. And no one wants to talk if they feel unheard by the other person.

So, learn to truly listen. Ask questions, engage in the conversation, and show interest in what she’s talking about. After all, she’ll be giving you valuable knowledge that you’ll be able to use to woo her.

Likes and dislikes are important, but you should talk about more than that. Ask her about her childhood, her plans for the future, and her relationship goals. Don’t just wait for your turn to talk, actively listen to her when she’s speaking.

15. Discover the things that you have in common with her.

It’s important for the two of you to find common ground so that you can bond over shared interests. The success of your relationship might even depend on whether or not you share the same core values and beliefs.

It’s also important to enjoy doing things together, so talk about your hobbies. Be open to trying some of the things that she likes even if you’ve never considered them before.

If you become a couple, you’ll be doing a lot of things together. It’s good for your relationship if you have some shared hobbies and activities that you can enjoy together.

16. Show her how special she is to you.

You can woo a girl and make her feel special by doing small things that mean the world to her. For instance, take note of important dates, such as your first date or the day you met.

You can also make her feel special by being supportive. Let her confide in you and vent to you when she’s going through something. Don’t always try to fix the problem she’s dealing with; she probably just wants you to listen anyway.

17. Keep the surprises coming.

Keep things exciting for her by surprising her every now and then. Has she talked about her idea of a perfect date? Take her on that date. Is she feeling sad? Show up at her place with wine and chocolate.

Keep her wondering what you’ll do next, and she’ll be excited to find out. However, make sure that these surprises are always pleasant and positive. You don’t want to surprise her by not calling her after a great date. Be unpredictable, but in a purely positive way that always cheers her up.

18. Remind her that she’s on your mind.

Send her a text sometimes just to show her that you’re thinking about her. Ask her about her day or send a funny meme when you know that she’s having a hard day.

Use good morning and goodnight messages so her day starts and ends with thoughts of you. You could even send flowers with a card just to let her know that she’s on your mind.

It’s really not that hard to be the kind of guy every girl dreams of. The small and big romantic gestures are a gateway to her heart.

19. Show her your vulnerable side.

Your dating experience should be positive. But, this doesn’t mean that you should entirely avoid talking about negative things. Open up to her about your fears and problems. Show her your vulnerable side, and let her know what troubles you.

Don’t complain all the time, but show her that you’re a human being with feelings that can get hurt. The tough-guy act doesn’t work anymore. So, let her know that you can be sensitive and emotional and aren’t afraid to show it.

In reality, that’s manlier than pretending that nothing can get to you even though you’re dying inside.

20. Text her often and be available enough.

Don’t be too available, but don’t try to ignore her to get her to like you either. Live your life, but find the time to text her often. Make her see that you have the time for a committed relationship.

You can’t and shouldn’t be available 24/7 because it will make it seem like you have no life. However, don’t keep your life a secret either. If you have other plans, tell her that you can’t see her, but let her in on what you’re up to. She’ll like being kept in the loop as well as knowing that you have a life.

As for texting, if she’s responsive and texts you just as often as you text her, there’s no limit to how many texts you can send.

21. Show her that you have a life outside of your love life.

Let her know about your hobbies, talk about your friends, your job, your family, and other things you have going on. Show her that you have a fulfilling life. If you, in fact, have a great life, you can even brag a little, and be sure to share your plans for the future.

22. Stay out of the friend zone.

You want to be her boyfriend, not her best friend. So, be careful not to end up in the friend zone.

What makes the difference between a friend and a potential boyfriend is the sexual chemistry. So, build the sexual tension by flirting with her and making your interest clear.

To avoid being placed in the friend zone, make sure she is perfectly aware of the fact that you consider her attractive and like her.

Be careful about letting her confide in you and being her shoulder to cry on. Yes, you should be there for her and do those things, but that should be only a small portion of what you have with her, not your entire relationship.

23. Show affection.

Build sexual chemistry by “accidentally” touching her every now and then. But make sure that your touches are appropriate—don’t be a creep. Touch her hand while you’re talking, put your palm on her lower back when you’re walking, or put your arm around her shoulders.

You can even put your hand on her knee if she is receptive. However, respect her enough not to make her uncomfortable by touching her if she doesn’t enjoy it. If she likes you, she will probably be receptive to the affection. So, try to get closer to her, literally.

24. Tease her but don’t take it too far.

You can be a bit playful and tease her a bit, but don’t take it too far and make her mad. While you should joke around a little, you shouldn’t put her down or downright make fun of her.

Give her a funny nickname or mimic the way she talks, but make sure it’s clear that you’re just teasing her. If she gets upset, be sure to apologize. Teasing can be good for your relationship, but only if she’s perfectly clear on the fact that you’re just being playful, not trying to insult her.

25. Don’t use social media too much.

You’ll probably add each other on your social media accounts. However, this is not an invitation to like every single picture and comment on everything she posts.

Stay cool, and don’t use social media too much. You should occasionally like something and chat with her, but don’t become her biggest fan on social media.

For your own sake, don’t stalk her social media either. People’s lives are not the same as they make them out to be on their social media accounts. Get to know this girl in real life and avoid obsessing about who likes her posts or comments on her pictures.

26. Don’t constantly complain or talk about yourself too much.

No one likes being on a date with someone who constantly complains or talks about themselves the entire time. Talk more about positive things than negative, and let her speak more than you do.

You should let her get to know you better and even share your worries with her, but only to a certain extent. These things should be just a small part of the entire conversation that should be more about her and the positive things.

27. Ask her out on a date.

The subtle way to let someone know that you like them that leaves no room for wondering is to simply ask them out on a date. Ask her out for coffee, dinner, or anything else, and even use the word “date” if the opportunity occurs.

Plan the date ahead of time and make sure that she has a great time. The date is not so much about letting her get to know you better as it is about making sure that she’s having a great time.

You’ll have plenty of time to learn more about each other on later dates. For now, you just need to make sure that you get a second date with her.

28. Pick up the check every now and then.

You don’t have to pay for everything all the time, but don’t make her pick up the check or split the bill either. Offer to pay the first time and kindly decline if she offers. (You can let her pay the next time if she offers.)

It’s not like it used to be, men aren’t expected to pay for everything anymore. But, for a first date, picking up the check is a chivalrous gesture that won’t go unnoticed.

29. Let her meet your friends.

A girl knows that you’re serious about her when you let her into your social circle. It’s probably too soon to introduce her to your family, but it’s never too soon to let her meet your friends.

This will be a little test for both of you. She’ll get to know you better by learning about the people that you hang out with. And you’ll learn more about her by hearing your friends’ opinions of her afterward.

In a perfect scenario, your girl and your friends will get along well. However, even if they don’t, just the fact that you’ve let her meet them will mean a lot for your potential future.

30. Learn more about her friends.

It’s important for you to learn about her social circle too. Don’t rush her into introducing you to her friends; however, you can ask questions whenever she mentions them so you can get a better idea of what they’re like.

This will also make things easier for you when you get a chance to meet them. You’ll already know a lot about them, so it will be much easier to break the ice.

31. Let her breathe.

No one wants a needy, clingy partner that appears desperate. So, make sure not to suffocate her. Give her space and enough alone time. Don’t let your world start revolving around her—live your life.

Don’t seem possessive and jealous either. Let her live her life too. If you become a couple, you’ll both have your own things to do outside of the relationship. Having that freedom is important for both of you.

32. Be alone with her.

You can’t have significant intimate moments if you always hang out in a group of people. So, find a way to have some alone time with her.

This doesn’t just mean going on dates. If you’re with a group of people, ask her to take a walk with you so you can both get some air. It could be as simple as that. You need one-on-one time with this girl to woo her.

33. Show her respect.

Make sure that you always stay respectful and show respect. Love is important, but without respect, you can’t have a healthy relationship.

Respect her need for alone time, her boundaries, her choices, and everything else. If you don’t, you’ll sabotage any chance you have of entering into a relationship with her.

34. Control your sexual desires.

Speaking of respect, a part of it is controlling your sexual desires. Yes, she should be aware of them, but you shouldn’t make her feel uncomfortable. If she’s aware that you find her attractive, that’s all she needs to know.

Don’t make her think that you’re only interested in sex. Put sex aside for now. Instead, put effort into getting to know her as a person to show her that you’re interested in something serious.

35. Have eyes only for her.

No woman wants a man who’ll look at other women. So, control yourself and ignore the attractive women that pass by. Have eyes only for her and show her that you would be a loyal boyfriend.

Make her feel like she’s the only girl in the world for you, and she’ll be more likely to give you a chance.

Don’t try to make her jealous by flirting with someone else or mentioning other women.

If you do talk about other women, make sure to point out if the woman is just a friend or a family member. She’ll notice that you’re trying to let her know that there’s no other woman in your life right now and she’ll appreciate it.

36. Stay a bit mysterious.

Open up to her, but don’t let it all pour out at once. Everyone likes a good mystery, so don’t let her read you like a book. Make her wait and wonder a bit before figuring you out.

People enjoy the process of learning about someone new, so don’t be an open book right away. Share important information, and let her discover other things about you later on in the relationship.

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