A lack of self-esteem, on the other hand, can destroy relationships, romantic or not, because it causes partners to be on an unequal footing in the relationship.
The partner with low self-esteem may not feel like they are deserving of the love or attention of the person that loves them, which can drive all manner of negative behaviors.
They may not have healthy coping mechanisms or value what they bring to the relationship.
A person with low self-esteem may or may not know that they have this problem. If they are aware of their problem they may not have brought it under control and might still be working on it.
Others may not realize that they do have problems with their self-esteem because they don’t understand the difference between healthy and low self-esteem.
Whilst the advice is similar for both sexes, this article is going to focus on men with low self-esteem and how their partners can identify the issue and help bring about some form of healing.
What are the signs of low self-esteem in men?
If you think that the man with whom you have a relationship has self-esteem issues, how can you tell for sure?
Watching for these signs will help you feel more confident in your assessment of the situation.
1. They may not be able to handle negative criticism.
Negative criticism will often be met with hostility and anger.
A man with low self-esteem will often take any negative criticism as a personal attack, whether it is or not.
They may take impersonal criticisms and blow them out of proportion or try to tie them to a facet of their own personality.
For example: the man makes a simple mistake in working out a problem. They may turn criticism of making a mistake into thinking they are stupid or incompetent when it was just a mistake that anyone could make.
A man with low self-esteem often needs a lot of reassurance that they are worthy of being loved, because they do not feel as though what they contribute to the relationship matters as much as their partner.
Some insecurity and reassurance is okay, but a constant need becomes a drain on the person that is being asked to provide it.